New Beginnings

A little piece of us dies every day. From our very cells to pieces of our heart forever changed by the pains and challenges of yesterday.

The other side of that truth is everything is reborn again. Everything. It is in our details. Our perceptions. Our truths. Every day a part of us is brand new.

Each moment brings a new beginning. It was my mother Enid’s final chapter and my son Nixon first, that I found this truth. As the anxiety ridden yesterday is gone, this morning I awoke with very specific words resounding in my soul.

Do not stand at my grave and weep.

Enid and David

Enid and her brother David.

Enid had purposefully chosen this poem by Mary Elizabeth Frye and carefully hidden in a place where she knew only the person who needed the message most and the person who could carry and deliver her message would find it.

I found it. I was momentarily stunned, as I knew exactly what I was reading and why. There were no directions with the poem. I simply knew. Through hot and salty tears, a feeling of being cool and refreshed began to ease the pain in my heart just a bit. 

I am a thousand winds that blow.

The epitome of class and timeless beauty.  Enid on her wedding day

The epitome of class and timeless beauty. Enid on her wedding day

These words are boundless and at first glance seem much too large to bring comfort. As I sat outside soaking up the Vancouver sunlight and gazing at my mother’s tiny garden after she had passed, the words played over and over in my soul. I began to whisper them quietly, over and over, to my beautiful new baby boy who was eyeing me carefully as if he was sent to care for me rather than me for him.

I got it. I GOT IT! Each moment brings a new beginning. Love, energy, and intention never die. WE are one and we are all an active part of all things. Whether our outside physical carriage is gone, our chassis … our internal framework is entirely intact and perfectly aligned with infinite energy.

Do not stand at my grave and cry.  I am not there.  I did not die.

Lennox, Enid, Nixon, & Alex

Lennox, Enid, Nixon, and me. 12 days later she would be gone. Look at her smile. Magnificent!

You are alive! Carpe Diem! Rise today and smile a smile you have never smiled. Help one more person. Let one tiny argument go. Let angst have a go at itself today while you lean into the wind. While I miss my mom every day and my journey sometimes brings me to my knees, I have learned to say  “thank you” while I’m down there because as soon a I get up, I know my gait will be refreshed, renewed, and reborn.

Today, I am thankful for the wind. It spreads seeds so they can grow new food, flowers, plants, and life. The wind cools you on the hottest of days and if you listen carefully, you may your hear angels joyfully singing of all you believe you have lost. The song can fill your heart and restore your faith.  Today, I am thankful for each person who reaches out to me with a quest for hope. You restore me every day. You, many times, ARE my wind.  You are my angels.

I will set out for today’s adventure with Nixon with the wind in my heart and the sun on my face. I bet something spectacular is waiting for us to discover. Gotta go! Gotta get there! I know the same gift is waiting for you. Open you heart and close your mouth! All you are wishing for is already here.

Here is Mary Elizabeth Frye’s poem, Enid’s gift to me, and my family. Our gift to you.

"Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep" ~ Mary Elizabeth Frye

“Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep” ~ Mary Elizabeth Frye

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Reboot your #Spirit, #Motivate with Control. Alt. Delete

About a year ago, my first article published was called Control.  Alt.  Delete.  Reboot Your Spirit.  The “hard re-boot” of my internal motherboard was extremely hard and dauntingly scary.  However, it was the best thing I could’ve done.  Through my honesty and willingness to accept myself as less than perfect, using humor and my three-step action plan, I freed myself to live, dream, and hope again.  There are still many frustrating days when I find myself slipping back into old habits and self defeating behaviors.  It happens to the best of us, all the time.  The best thing to do, is refer to a simple action plan with easy steps to remember.  As always, I share my steps with many publications and life coaching clients, thebabyspot.ca being one of the most near and dear to my heart.  Ever authentic, thebabyspot.ca, the Editor in Chief, and her staff, have supported me and lifted me many times…even when I couldn’t find my own voice.  Each day I remember to be grateful for at least three things, my son, my journey, and your support from around the globe.  Thank you.  Each one of you.  You enrich my life and motivate me everyday.  Thank you for all the notes and emails.  Many bring tears to my eyes. I know you’re out there.  Try to remember to enjoy your journey.  Believe that everything ALWAYS works toward the greatest good.  On tough days remember you can always change the way you experience the events in your life. Control.  Alt.  Delete. Reboot your spirit, find humor, and give love.
Lovingly,
Alex

Control, Alt. Delete

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Alexsandra Wright

As mothers and fathers, we find ourselves rolling our “tape” when we are around others. From the work setting to social gatherings, we roll a tape of what we are about and the points that we want to get across to the person listening to us. Many times, our “tape” is embellished to drive a point that we are “nice people, powerful people or respected people.” We do this because we want the listener to gage similar feelings about us. When we roll our tape, we are solidifying that our character, whether real or exaggerated, is presented in the best light to illicit whatever validation we need.   However, once the meeting is over, we have allowed a listener to think something about us that perhaps is not true and we slowly chip away at not only our moral compass, but our character.

Alexsandra Wright has a great three step method to stop this. Like a computer, we have to control, alt and delete.

Control

The answer to being  comfortable in our truth is simple. We have to stop our tape. However, it is the procedure that is hard. Many of us can’t stop rolling out the points we want others to know. Alexsandra asserts that the first step is to CONTROL our words and thoughts.

“Stopping our tape requires us to really listen to what we are saying. Every word. We must take notice which words we use to soothe or validate ourselves, our actions, our feeling and ultimately, our existence.”

Do you find yourself name dropping? Do you want the listener to know about your powerful job or how you are a much stronger person then you really are? Why do you want them to know these things, especially if it just to get a reaction to make you feel good about yourself, garner sympathy, and position yourself as more powerful than another person?  Control yourself from falsely validating.

Alt

Alexsandra’s second step is to Alter your words, thoughts and feelings. She suggests to give yourself some time, whether alone or in a social setting to BE STILL. Think of the words you use to validate yourself. These words will “tingle” a bit according to Alexsandra. Like a slight burn, you know that these words do not feel good and it’s time to give some focus to the problem area. Alexsandra wants you to notice that you are trying to convince someone of something. That someone is not the listener, it’s YOU. Stop right there! Take a deep breath. Instead of saying something in that moment… examine YOUR moment.

Delete

Okay readers, it’s time to purge. Yes, those uncomfortable moments according to Alexsandra are the ones that make us feel that we need to be our biggest and best self. However, seize the opportunity to be your AUTHENTIC self. Say nothing. Be in your moment. Most of all, LET GO of who you think you NEED TO BE and become WHO YOU ARE.

Are you being your authentic self? Leave your story in the comments section below!

Hold On To Hope

As we say goodbye to what was 2014, the word that resonates within my spirit is HOPE.

HOPE

There are many keys to opening up a new future, to saying goodbye to the past, and to inventing a brand-new you. Each moment has its own significance, but the most significant ingredient of all is hope. Throughout the year, we go through so many changes, so many versions of ourselves, both good and bad. The foundation of change and growth is hope. Hope for a new day, hope to heal the sick, hope for a new job, hope for new breakthroughs, hope for love, and hope for change.

I really had no idea that I would achieve as much as I did in 2014. Looking back, it was not just overcoming obvious challenges; it was overcoming the challenge of ego, humility, acceptance, and abandonment, while practicing the ultimate strength through adversity. It was a year of accepting many things that I could not control and ultimately realizing that all I could control were my reactions. This propelled me to stay positive through all the surreal twists and turns and delivered me safely to 2015.  My resume and my life had once again exploded.  This time exponentially, with the mark of “service-to-others” deeply ingrained with permanent ink and emblazoned in my soul.

Today I can tell you this: Mission Accomplished. Through all of the challenges physically, mentally, and spiritually, I did not know that I would ever see the sun rise. It was like a long night that seemed to go on forever. As I leaned into the pain, the confusion, and the unknown, I learned to walk with grace through every moment.

The woman, the executive, the daughter, and the mother that entered 2014 had been re-shaped, re-molded, and ultimately re-birthed. There were unforeseen circumstances that I certainly did not think I had enough “bandwidth” to get through. In the darkest of moments, even when my faith ran low, I learned to celebrate hope. When my heart was breaking I leaned into hope. When things made no sense and were unjust, I leaned into hope. Through the laughter and the tears, I leaned into hope. I have developed many life tools to successfully navigate through the darkest of days, all of which I will share with you this year on MOTIVATINGOTHERMOTHERS.com, and on the road in cities around the world. The most important constant is HOPE! You will make it through all of your challenges. I just know you will. I believe in you and I have lots of extra hope safely tucked away in my toolbox if you need more! You CAN and you WILL make a stronger YOU. We lose people, we gain people, we lose jobs, we gain jobs; a cacophony of mysterious silk threads make the tapestry we call life. The most important “stitch” is hope.

“Anything you feel is missing can be found. Any needs you may have will be met. There is ultimate and unlimited love and abundance waiting for you.” – AlexSandra Wright

You have to have hope. You have to give hope. You have to embrace help. You have to find hope when you can see no hope. You have to find a way where it seems there is no way. You have to make something out of nothing. What you will find is your omnipotent excellence. In hope you find your dreams, your aspirations, your love, and your victories.

As I embark on this next leg of my journey, I know that I am living in my passion and purpose. I embrace every moment. I am grateful for everyone and everything that appeared in my life that helped me get to this point. Now I am ready to change the world one heart at a time. One love at a time. One hope at a time. Thank you for supporting this movement. May you find hope in every experience that comes to you. May you bring help to everyone that meets your path. May you find forgiveness, light, and love to share with everyone on your journey. I have hope within me and that is why am strong.

Until we meet friend, here is my gift to you.

 KNAPSACK OF HOPE: 

Knapsack Of Hope

KNAPSACK OF HOPE Remind yourself that everything is already working toward your greatest good. Breathe, lean into your feelings, and hold on to HOPE!

  DIRECTIONS:

Find each of these items and wrap them in white silk. Tie your knapsack with a matching piece of silk in purple, pink, green, or blue and tuck your precious bundle safely away, yet always close. When hope runs low, close your eyes, hold the knapsack close to your heart and BELIEVE.

TOOLS FOR YOUR JOURNEY:

One – STAR (gold or other) This will remind you to keep shining.

One – PAPER CLIP to help you hold things together.

One – ERASER to fix all the little mistakes.

One – LOCK to keep all your secrets safe.

One – PENNY so that you are never broke.

One – RUBBER BAND to help you stretch beyond your limits.

 

 

M.O.M Snapshot: Mommy Necklace Celebrating All #Moms

M.O.M Snapshot: Mommy Necklace

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Celebrate all moms with your hand crafted 14 Karat White Gold and Diamond “mommy” Necklace.

In 2009 I learned I having Nixon. I was truly one of the most magical moments of my life. I was 38 and having my first child! The same year, the exact same time, I learned my mother was dying. Nixon’s due date was projected to be February 7, 2010…my Mother’s birthday.

2010 would prove to be a year to never forget. Nixon was born…my Mother passed away. I love them both unconditionally and eternally.

I decided to commemorate the wonder and beauty of my journey by creating my own “mommy” necklace. It stands for everything associated with the honor of being a mother. It stands for the process of gaining and loosing everything simultaneously. It stands for EVERYONE who loves a child and changes the world with her love. It stands for everything I hold precious. Love. Life . Laughter. Motherhood gives my each of these every day. 

I chose lower case letters to symbolize humility. I chose cursive script to symbolize the connection and every evolving journey. I chose diamonds and gold to symbolize a solid foundation, ever lasting love, and of course, to symbolize that becoming a mother makes you even more fabulous than ever! 

Nordstrom Mommy full

Warrior #Mom Bentley Hale ~ November Spotlight

Bentley Hale-Sip Happens photo

Coco Chanel Strong Women

Taking time to celebrate and give gratitude for all the victories in life, I am always aware that we do not gain victories alone. The best journeys and results come when teamwork is involved. Whether it is friends, family, co-workers, or even strangers… we are always stronger working in harmony with others.

So many wonderful people support my efforts to help other mothers and families, that each month, #Moms Motivating Other Mothers, will highlight one spectacular MOM who is making a difference and one family owned business or charity making significant effort with in our communities.

Our MOM for November is Bentley Hale. Through my work with Safe Passage, a spectacular non-profit in California helping mothers and children out of dangerous domestic violence situations, I met Ms. Hale.

Ms. Hale, of Elevate Women Events, was single handedly heading up the enormous task of filling the CBS Backlot with a fun filled event to benefit Safe Passage and the Grossman Burn Foundation. One woman … with a softly curving belly was running the show! I immediately recognized her spirit and was amazed by her level of compassion and understanding. I was proud to meet this young, beautiful bombshell with a heart the size of the Empire State building and vision not only far beyond her years, but also far beyond living for herself. Ms. Hale possesses so many good qualities that it is a challenge to nail down just a few. It is an honor to know her.

“Elevate! Events are planned to help raise funds and awareness for various women’s charities while creating a fun and exciting atmosphere for people to come together to help support a cause. The charities we support advocate for the human rights of women and girls, and seek to empower women both globally and nationally. Proceeds from our events benefit various women’s charities we partner with.” Bentley Hale ~ Elevate! Women

Ms. Hale is expecting her first child, a daughter, in January and is recently married. Marriage gave her a blended family and she flowed gracefully into being a stand out mom.

Ms. Hale has helped so many other women and charities realize milestones that is was a cinch to say yes when she asked me to be a guest at her next event. Elevate! Women and Elevate Retreats are proud to offer its first Pregnancy and Mommy Retreat in Big Bear, California, November 14-16, 2014. Saturday night, November 15, 2014 I will be hosting the “Campfire Life Coach” event. I built a special program for this fun fireside chat. I will focus on how to push through your challenges and manifest your dreams … with a little one in tow. No matter what the press says, I never stopped dreaming, manifesting, or working. It is what has enabled my business to flourish and it has enabled me to give back to you!

Campfire Renew, Inspire & Elevate Workshop For #Moms

Indentifying challenges, fears, hopes, and dreams.

Clearing the path to our core.

Acknowledging our challenges or goals.

Confirming our intention through positive affirmations and specialized exercises.

Creating tools to manifest positive outcomes and schedule of milestones.

I am truly an honored guest, and consider myself in the company of greatness. Cheers to you Bentley Hale as Warrior MOM of the month! You change lives everyday and we salute you!

* Register NOW for the retreat through ELEVATERETREATS.NET or MOTIVATINGOTHERMOTHERS.COM

You Already Have It All

Already Have

Motivation. It’s the perfect place to begin to manifest all your dreams. Before you begin your next perfect moment, I want you to understand that you already have it all! Right now … In this moment.

Sometimes it seems as though we “lose” something everyday. I lose my car keys and my iPhone a thousand times a day. Nixon looks at me, swoops a dramatic palm to his forehead and says, “Mommmyyyyyyyyyyy, where is your phone?” I feel frantic for a moment, mostly because I’m running late, and tearing through everything surrounding me. Cursing and blaming everyone and every thing I can think of. ANYONE! To jump to the end of the daily ridiculous shenanigans, I remember this small moment is a metaphor for living. The keys are in my bag, every time. Well, unless I’ve left them in the car. Hey, judge not friend, I remembered the kid and the dog.

My frazzled and accelerated life helps me to remember not to panic. An oxymoron I know. Here’s the thing. I have keys to my home. I have keys to my car. I have my son. We both have our sense of humor and our health. I have an incredible family and an electric existence. We have each other. I haven’t lost a thing. I already have it all.

When I decided to open my life to you, it was after 4 years of silence and judgment on a global scale. If you have ever chatted with me, you know that I always say, “Meh, I’m too stupid to be afraid, thats why I can always rise from any situation.” That’s only partly true. It’s true … I rise. It’s false that I’m not afraid. I feel fear all the time. If I didn’t feel my fear, I wouldn’t know how to be fearless. I choose to move without fear. Fear hinders the greatness that is already within me and within you. I will never stand down to fear. I will always choose hope.

I pushed through the ridicule, the pain, the betrayal, the loss of friends, family, and my comfortable identity. I challenged myself to tell my truth and to open my heart to the love that already existed but I was not choosing to recognize. I chose resilience. I chose love. I chose to be with you! I discovered what I had “lost” never really “was”, and I was inspired to acknowledge the abundance that exists in my life. I already have it all.

Friend, while we critique ourselves every day and find fault with everything about ourselves, we must realize that we are right where we are supposed to be and everything we need to fulfill our destiny is already within us. Pushing through the fear, I choose love over bitterness and despair. Being harsh or hyper-critical on oneself, creates inner anguish. We then communicate from a painful place. No need to do that to yourself. Change the paradigm and your inner dialogue to one of love.

To write about myself publicly or to connect with people around the world was terrifying. Yet, there you were. You greeted me with open hearts, open minds, and boundless love. You exist. You carry me through each day. I had to let go and open my heart, face my fear and stop believing there was something wrong with me. There is nothing wrong with me, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. I challenge you to look at yourself honestly and lovingly. See yourself the way I see you. See the perfect human YOU. The YOU that the universe sees. Love your self the way the universe loves you. Compassionately and infinitely. Constantly renewed. Constantly forgiving.

We want MORE. We want BETTER. We want THINGS. We want MONEY. We want LOVE. We want to be accepted, simply for the loving being we are. We already have what we need for a perfect life. Once you understand and embrace that, you will see the complete and perfect you I see. You will manifest infinitely as, you are living in the present with purity of intention and honesty. You will know to give more than you take. You’ll be surprised to all the ways love shows up. You’ll be surprised how quickly that love turns to opportunity for change. You’ll be surprised how quickly your shift in perspective allows you to access an infinite pool of resources to live your authentic, fulfilled life, and assist your dream quest. If self-improvement means there is something wrong with you, then take a deep breath and let the essence of your perfect being love your insecure self. You already have it all.

I’ve met so many wonderful people around the world that encourage me every day. People that understand loving me, means my child’s life is better, and they can then send me as a warrior for them into the world to affect change. One person I met was a bit nervous about sharing a picture of his or herself in self-realized fear that I may judge it to be ugly. Never. I receive all of the love you are generous enough to share and I see each person for whom they show up to be. Sending kind words, love, encouragement, and making an effort to support others, makes you nothing short of beautiful!

Open your heart to the love that exists, and see yourself as the complete, beautiful, loved, and perfectly flawed being you are. You cannot think your way through life or think your way through a situation. You must LIVE your way through life. What ever challenges come your way, know that you already have all the resources and support to get through it.

Step into your authentic self. Step into your excellence. Step into the love that is waiting for you. I am proud of you. I support you. I am here when you need me. Thank you for giving me the same. I receive all with open arms and return it with unconditional love. You already have it all!

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