New Beginnings

A little piece of us dies every day. From our very cells to pieces of our heart forever changed by the pains and challenges of yesterday.

The other side of that truth is everything is reborn again. Everything. It is in our details. Our perceptions. Our truths. Every day a part of us is brand new.

Each moment brings a new beginning. It was my mother Enid’s final chapter and my son Nixon first, that I found this truth. As the anxiety ridden yesterday is gone, this morning I awoke with very specific words resounding in my soul.

Do not stand at my grave and weep.

Enid and David

Enid and her brother David.

Enid had purposefully chosen this poem by Mary Elizabeth Frye and carefully hidden in a place where she knew only the person who needed the message most and the person who could carry and deliver her message would find it.

I found it. I was momentarily stunned, as I knew exactly what I was reading and why. There were no directions with the poem. I simply knew. Through hot and salty tears, a feeling of being cool and refreshed began to ease the pain in my heart just a bit. 

I am a thousand winds that blow.

The epitome of class and timeless beauty.  Enid on her wedding day

The epitome of class and timeless beauty. Enid on her wedding day

These words are boundless and at first glance seem much too large to bring comfort. As I sat outside soaking up the Vancouver sunlight and gazing at my mother’s tiny garden after she had passed, the words played over and over in my soul. I began to whisper them quietly, over and over, to my beautiful new baby boy who was eyeing me carefully as if he was sent to care for me rather than me for him.

I got it. I GOT IT! Each moment brings a new beginning. Love, energy, and intention never die. WE are one and we are all an active part of all things. Whether our outside physical carriage is gone, our chassis … our internal framework is entirely intact and perfectly aligned with infinite energy.

Do not stand at my grave and cry.  I am not there.  I did not die.

Lennox, Enid, Nixon, & Alex

Lennox, Enid, Nixon, and me. 12 days later she would be gone. Look at her smile. Magnificent!

You are alive! Carpe Diem! Rise today and smile a smile you have never smiled. Help one more person. Let one tiny argument go. Let angst have a go at itself today while you lean into the wind. While I miss my mom every day and my journey sometimes brings me to my knees, I have learned to say  “thank you” while I’m down there because as soon a I get up, I know my gait will be refreshed, renewed, and reborn.

Today, I am thankful for the wind. It spreads seeds so they can grow new food, flowers, plants, and life. The wind cools you on the hottest of days and if you listen carefully, you may your hear angels joyfully singing of all you believe you have lost. The song can fill your heart and restore your faith.  Today, I am thankful for each person who reaches out to me with a quest for hope. You restore me every day. You, many times, ARE my wind.  You are my angels.

I will set out for today’s adventure with Nixon with the wind in my heart and the sun on my face. I bet something spectacular is waiting for us to discover. Gotta go! Gotta get there! I know the same gift is waiting for you. Open you heart and close your mouth! All you are wishing for is already here.

Here is Mary Elizabeth Frye’s poem, Enid’s gift to me, and my family. Our gift to you.

"Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep" ~ Mary Elizabeth Frye

“Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep” ~ Mary Elizabeth Frye

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“I’ll do it tomorrow…” 4 Tips for How to Avoid Procrastination and Get Things Done!

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“I’ll do it tomorrow…”

4 Tips for How to Avoid Procrastination and Get Things Done!

By

Natasha Sharma M.Sc OACCPP

NKS Therapy

Natasha Sharma is a psychotherapist, doctoral student, author, speaker, and media spokesperson.

Natasha Sharma is a psychotherapist, doctoral student, author, speaker, and media spokesperson.

@NatashaSharma17

A stunningly high number of clients I see in my practice complain about the dreaded P-word: Procrastination. They have ideas, goals, small tasks and large ones, and never seem to complete any of them. When I ask them what gets in the way, the answer is often “I don’t know.” Procrastination – aka the ‘art’ of putting things off until another day – is incredibly common. Not that big of a deal for things that actually can wait, but perfectly annoying when there are things we genuinely need to get done sooner rather than later. It’s a problem that plagues the busy and the not-so-busy, over-achievers and under-achievers, the younger and the older. Why is this?

Human beings are creatures of habit, and our brains have a tendency to favour routine. So any tasks that drastically deviate from our daily routines require more effort from our brains, in the form of conscious self-motivation, organization, and initiation to those very tasks. And, in case you didn’t already know it, our brains don’t like to work! But constant procrastination often leaves us feeling disorganized, unproductive, and downright down on ourselves. And in the worst cases it can lead things to pile up forcing us to do everything at the last minute, which can be overwhelming and incredibly stressful.

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World Class Olympic Athlete, Woman, Philahthopist, #MOM

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Here are 4 tips for how to avoid procrastination once and for all:

for how to avoid procrastination once and for all:

  1. Get a good night’s rest – every night! Procrastination is linked to the self-regulatory mechanisms of our bodies, also called executive functioning, which is chaired by the pre-frontal cortex area of our brains. Without adequate rest, this area of the brain simply cannot function at its optimal level, so organizing your time will be more difficult. Granted I said our brains are lazy, but don’t deprive them of a full 8 hours every single night. And if you can handle it, one good, strong cup of coffee in the morning will kick-start your pre-frontal cortex and get you ready for action.
  1. Don’t try to do it all; pick a few things! Picture this: You have a paper to write for a class you’re taking, your taxes are due, you’ve always wanted to learn how to build furniture, learn to speak Swahili, write a book…slow down! If your brain is overwhelmed with too many tasks, it won’t try for any of them! Instead, pick one or two things you really want or need to do and shoot for those to start. Once they are done, pick one or two more, and so on. Research has consistently shown that this method of ‘chunking’ things out helps to get things done faster.
  1. Write things down. This is an oldie but a goodie. Research has also shown that writing things down is more strongly correlated with completion of said things as compared to when we don’t write things down. Why? Accountability. Also, there’s a certain satisfaction in the physical act of deleting an item off of your “to do” list – it can be so gratifying!
  1. Use pleasure as a reward. Still got your pen out? Make a list of things you like in life; things that bring you sheer joy and pleasure. They can be things you do every day or things you occasionally splurge on. Be it an hour at the gym, taking a long hot bath, having a glass of wine, watching a ‘guilty-pleasure’ movie, whatever. Look at your list and use the things on it as rewards for getting something done. Promise yourself that: “After I write half of that report for work, I will watch an hour of TV” and “after I write the rest of the report tomorrow, I will play tennis with Bob.” And then make sure you do reward yourself with something after you finish. This is effectively training your own brain to anticipate rewards for not procrastinating, thereby doing it less and less frequently. Because in addition to being kind of lazy, our brains love to be rewarded!

Put these 4 tips into action and you’ll likely notice a big change in how often you put things off for another day. And in how you feel about yourself. Now if you’ll excuse me, my reward for writing this article is an episode of “Suits.” I’m totally addicted.

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How To Be Happy And Get The Most Out Of Life!

 How to Be Happy and Get the Most out of Life !

By: Natasha Sharma, M.Sc.

@NatashaSharma17

Natasha Sharma is a psychotherapist, doctoral student, author, speaker, and media spokesperson.

Natasha Sharma is a psychotherapist, doctoral student, author, speaker, and media spokesperson. Follow on Twitter @NatashaSharma17

Problems, as we all know, are a reality of living. Life can be unpredictable and will most certainly be stressful at one point or another. But it is how we respond to changes and solve a problem that have the most impact and influence to the quality of our lives, as opposed to the actual problem itself. In my practice as a Psychotherapist, I have worked with many individuals and families of all ages, ranging from issues as harrowing as psychological trauma in small children to more commonplace issues such as conflict in the workplace, or dating and relationship issues. Over the years, I have come to realize that a problem is a problem, relative to the unique context of a person’s life and individual phenomenology. Which is to say that they exist – or do not exist – based on our own personal circumstances and subjective experiences of life.

No matter what our individual circumstances are, there are things that all of us can do – whether we struggle with mental illness, extremely difficult living conditions, anxiety, depression, or just plain old boredom – to promote our psychological and emotional well-being, and therefore the quality of our lives. I call these the 4 pillars of LIFE: Love, Introspection, Fun, and Empowerment. Let’s take a closer look at each one working backwards:

Empowerment: Through constantly seeking knowledge and education about ourselves and the world around us, we Empower ourselves! That means we increase our capacity to make the best choices to suit our individual lives, and to transform those choices into the actions and outcomes that we desire. We feel stronger and more confident in our ability to control our own life and destiny.

Fun: Life is incomplete and boring without Fun! We express our individual selves every day through our tastes in food, fashion, travel, hobbies, social events, music, movies, and whatever else we are passionate about. Fun is the spice of life, and regular doses of it at every age are essential to our well-being!

Introspection: To increase self-awareness, we must look inward and recognize our unique strengths, our weaknesses, our areas of vulnerability, and our passions. We all have them. Become intimately acquainted with your unique self!

Love: Our well-being is truly enhanced by the love we receive and give to others. But most important, and foremost to good mental health, is the love we must have towards ourselves. This type of love comes through deep self-awareness, self-respect, and unconditional self-acceptance. When we are kind and forgiving of ourselves, we feel more secure and at peace. We gain more confidence, are more assertive, have more energy, are less resentful, and make good decisions that are of benefit to us. Simply put, the most important thing each of us can do to promote our own mental health is to fall in love with ourselves! When we do this, we are happy. And when we are happy, we are better mothers, fathers, daughters, sons, brothers, sisters, wives, husbands, and friends.

Many of the people I encounter in my world find themselves unable to let go of the past, or anxious about the future. We cannot change the past. But we can change the way we reflect on it and thereby re-write the story of our past. We cannot predict the future. But we can challenge our fears and assess the likelihood of events. Finally, we cannot always control life. But we can always control how we experience life.

No Mud, No Lotus

No Mud, No Lotus

Reboot your #Spirit, #Motivate with Control. Alt. Delete

About a year ago, my first article published was called Control.  Alt.  Delete.  Reboot Your Spirit.  The “hard re-boot” of my internal motherboard was extremely hard and dauntingly scary.  However, it was the best thing I could’ve done.  Through my honesty and willingness to accept myself as less than perfect, using humor and my three-step action plan, I freed myself to live, dream, and hope again.  There are still many frustrating days when I find myself slipping back into old habits and self defeating behaviors.  It happens to the best of us, all the time.  The best thing to do, is refer to a simple action plan with easy steps to remember.  As always, I share my steps with many publications and life coaching clients, thebabyspot.ca being one of the most near and dear to my heart.  Ever authentic, thebabyspot.ca, the Editor in Chief, and her staff, have supported me and lifted me many times…even when I couldn’t find my own voice.  Each day I remember to be grateful for at least three things, my son, my journey, and your support from around the globe.  Thank you.  Each one of you.  You enrich my life and motivate me everyday.  Thank you for all the notes and emails.  Many bring tears to my eyes. I know you’re out there.  Try to remember to enjoy your journey.  Believe that everything ALWAYS works toward the greatest good.  On tough days remember you can always change the way you experience the events in your life. Control.  Alt.  Delete. Reboot your spirit, find humor, and give love.
Lovingly,
Alex

Control, Alt. Delete

www.motivatingothermothers.com

Alexsandra Wright

As mothers and fathers, we find ourselves rolling our “tape” when we are around others. From the work setting to social gatherings, we roll a tape of what we are about and the points that we want to get across to the person listening to us. Many times, our “tape” is embellished to drive a point that we are “nice people, powerful people or respected people.” We do this because we want the listener to gage similar feelings about us. When we roll our tape, we are solidifying that our character, whether real or exaggerated, is presented in the best light to illicit whatever validation we need.   However, once the meeting is over, we have allowed a listener to think something about us that perhaps is not true and we slowly chip away at not only our moral compass, but our character.

Alexsandra Wright has a great three step method to stop this. Like a computer, we have to control, alt and delete.

Control

The answer to being  comfortable in our truth is simple. We have to stop our tape. However, it is the procedure that is hard. Many of us can’t stop rolling out the points we want others to know. Alexsandra asserts that the first step is to CONTROL our words and thoughts.

“Stopping our tape requires us to really listen to what we are saying. Every word. We must take notice which words we use to soothe or validate ourselves, our actions, our feeling and ultimately, our existence.”

Do you find yourself name dropping? Do you want the listener to know about your powerful job or how you are a much stronger person then you really are? Why do you want them to know these things, especially if it just to get a reaction to make you feel good about yourself, garner sympathy, and position yourself as more powerful than another person?  Control yourself from falsely validating.

Alt

Alexsandra’s second step is to Alter your words, thoughts and feelings. She suggests to give yourself some time, whether alone or in a social setting to BE STILL. Think of the words you use to validate yourself. These words will “tingle” a bit according to Alexsandra. Like a slight burn, you know that these words do not feel good and it’s time to give some focus to the problem area. Alexsandra wants you to notice that you are trying to convince someone of something. That someone is not the listener, it’s YOU. Stop right there! Take a deep breath. Instead of saying something in that moment… examine YOUR moment.

Delete

Okay readers, it’s time to purge. Yes, those uncomfortable moments according to Alexsandra are the ones that make us feel that we need to be our biggest and best self. However, seize the opportunity to be your AUTHENTIC self. Say nothing. Be in your moment. Most of all, LET GO of who you think you NEED TO BE and become WHO YOU ARE.

Are you being your authentic self? Leave your story in the comments section below!

I can #Dream again … So can you! #DreamFearlessly

I knew I’d survive, after all, I always have.  I knew I’d live, after all, I always have.  I just didn’t know if I would live in Technicolor again nor if I’d ever DREAM again.  Now I know…  It’s better than a dream!  It’s my reality.  I’ve earned it.  So have you.  If you are still in the midst of your “night”…HOLD ON!! The sun will rise and so will your heart.  I’m with you every step of the way and living proof that it’s sweeter than ever, when you’ve consciously been an active participant on your journey.
Email me if your are having trouble believing!
Best,
Alex
Dream Again

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Ah things ain’t what they used to be, no no
Where did all the blue skies go?

Marvin Gaye’s timeless Mercy, Mercy Me lyrics gently ring true with many mothers. How quickly life can take us full of hope and big dreams and into a pool of desperation so deep, we find ourselves swimming to get out. Have you been a mother who thought your marriage would last, but it fell apart and now you are in a situation that you have not imagined? Do you find you are struggling, holding on to each day, worried what the next would bring? Do you miss the days that you were full of hope, aspiration and big dreams? Alexandra Wright knows your pain and she can tell you first hand, she has been there.

Poison is the wind that blows from the north and south and east
Woo mercy, mercy me, mercy father

As a single mom, Alexsandra had lost everything through court battles and child support challenges. Each day was filled with unfamiliar worries of getting her son the bare necessities. She worried about what tomorrow would bring. In quiet moments, she ruefully thought of her previous career as a high powered branding executive and slowly put together strategy to return. As she sat amongst other mothers, children, and families who had lost everything, she never lost hope that she would survive, but definitely wondered if she would ever LIVE again. More over….would she ever DREAM again? Once she pulled herself out of poverty and pulled away from “surviving” chronicled here, she began to breathe in life once again and he heart swirled with joy that that she too could and would dream again.

How much more abuse from man can she stand?
Oh, na na…
My sweet Lord… No
My Lord… My sweet Lord

Alexsandra attests “Once we can clear the dense fog of toxic people, recurring bad habits, relationships, and  self doubt, we can truly manifest what we truly desire and the infinite abundance available to all of us.  Whether it is our family, our faith, or our goals, we can focus on each piece of our destiny and bring them to life. It’s about clearing the path of negativity and focusing on what you truly want out of life. Essentially, what we have learned from her, is to visualize and conceptualize. Visualize the dream you want, take the concept, and produce simple action items. Tackle each one at a time and keep track of your victories!  Make it happen! Channel your hope, faith and fortitude and DREAM again.”

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“The POWER to MANIFEST our hearts desire begins within our HEARTS. During the dark times, our heart merely beats to pump blood and keep us alive. As the dawn comes and the cloak of the night lifts, so will your heart. You WILL live again. You WILL dream again… I know… I’m living it!” ~ Alexsandra Wright.

Alexsandra now can say that she is building her dream of Motivating Other Mothers globally. Check with her website for updated manifestations, inspiration and wisdom. Most recently, she is working with Marvin Gaye III and his phenomenal wife Wendy on a new project called “Rise Up” that will inspire change for all of us. ‘Rise Up” teams up with many wonderful organizations and charities that will double the efforts to give back in every meaningful way. We all need a hand and this team, will be reaching around the world to help. Alexsandra wants you to turn yourself back to manifesting your dreams, so you can look back at your past life and say “Ah things ain’t what they used to be” and feel good about it.

“The opportunities, the people and the joy in my life have only grown by leaps and bounds. My career has flourished into more than I have dared to dream before and the freedom of letting go of the shackles from yesterday allow me to soar to new heights.  I’ve opened offices in Beverly Hills and am working with a true Dream Team.  Nixon is thriving and happy.   I am LIVING! I am DREAMING! I am LOVING. I have never felt better.” Alexsandra Wright

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Hold On To Hope

As we say goodbye to what was 2014, the word that resonates within my spirit is HOPE.

HOPE

There are many keys to opening up a new future, to saying goodbye to the past, and to inventing a brand-new you. Each moment has its own significance, but the most significant ingredient of all is hope. Throughout the year, we go through so many changes, so many versions of ourselves, both good and bad. The foundation of change and growth is hope. Hope for a new day, hope to heal the sick, hope for a new job, hope for new breakthroughs, hope for love, and hope for change.

I really had no idea that I would achieve as much as I did in 2014. Looking back, it was not just overcoming obvious challenges; it was overcoming the challenge of ego, humility, acceptance, and abandonment, while practicing the ultimate strength through adversity. It was a year of accepting many things that I could not control and ultimately realizing that all I could control were my reactions. This propelled me to stay positive through all the surreal twists and turns and delivered me safely to 2015.  My resume and my life had once again exploded.  This time exponentially, with the mark of “service-to-others” deeply ingrained with permanent ink and emblazoned in my soul.

Today I can tell you this: Mission Accomplished. Through all of the challenges physically, mentally, and spiritually, I did not know that I would ever see the sun rise. It was like a long night that seemed to go on forever. As I leaned into the pain, the confusion, and the unknown, I learned to walk with grace through every moment.

The woman, the executive, the daughter, and the mother that entered 2014 had been re-shaped, re-molded, and ultimately re-birthed. There were unforeseen circumstances that I certainly did not think I had enough “bandwidth” to get through. In the darkest of moments, even when my faith ran low, I learned to celebrate hope. When my heart was breaking I leaned into hope. When things made no sense and were unjust, I leaned into hope. Through the laughter and the tears, I leaned into hope. I have developed many life tools to successfully navigate through the darkest of days, all of which I will share with you this year on MOTIVATINGOTHERMOTHERS.com, and on the road in cities around the world. The most important constant is HOPE! You will make it through all of your challenges. I just know you will. I believe in you and I have lots of extra hope safely tucked away in my toolbox if you need more! You CAN and you WILL make a stronger YOU. We lose people, we gain people, we lose jobs, we gain jobs; a cacophony of mysterious silk threads make the tapestry we call life. The most important “stitch” is hope.

“Anything you feel is missing can be found. Any needs you may have will be met. There is ultimate and unlimited love and abundance waiting for you.” – AlexSandra Wright

You have to have hope. You have to give hope. You have to embrace help. You have to find hope when you can see no hope. You have to find a way where it seems there is no way. You have to make something out of nothing. What you will find is your omnipotent excellence. In hope you find your dreams, your aspirations, your love, and your victories.

As I embark on this next leg of my journey, I know that I am living in my passion and purpose. I embrace every moment. I am grateful for everyone and everything that appeared in my life that helped me get to this point. Now I am ready to change the world one heart at a time. One love at a time. One hope at a time. Thank you for supporting this movement. May you find hope in every experience that comes to you. May you bring help to everyone that meets your path. May you find forgiveness, light, and love to share with everyone on your journey. I have hope within me and that is why am strong.

Until we meet friend, here is my gift to you.

 KNAPSACK OF HOPE: 

Knapsack Of Hope

KNAPSACK OF HOPE Remind yourself that everything is already working toward your greatest good. Breathe, lean into your feelings, and hold on to HOPE!

  DIRECTIONS:

Find each of these items and wrap them in white silk. Tie your knapsack with a matching piece of silk in purple, pink, green, or blue and tuck your precious bundle safely away, yet always close. When hope runs low, close your eyes, hold the knapsack close to your heart and BELIEVE.

TOOLS FOR YOUR JOURNEY:

One – STAR (gold or other) This will remind you to keep shining.

One – PAPER CLIP to help you hold things together.

One – ERASER to fix all the little mistakes.

One – LOCK to keep all your secrets safe.

One – PENNY so that you are never broke.

One – RUBBER BAND to help you stretch beyond your limits.

 

 

#MOMS INSPIRATION Krishtine Ross Unlocks Her Golden Handcuffs. You can too!

I am so honored to bring this next installment of the Golden Handcuff Project to you.  As you know I work with thousands of moms and children around the world. Each person moves me, it is never redundant or a matter of going through the motions.  I come to love and care about each person that reaches out to me and my staff.  To say: “around the world” is a huge statement, however it is completely true.  There are countries I’ve come to wistfully dream of as I open communications with people in places I’ve never been.  I’m proud to say MotivatingOtherMothers.com is changing lives in over 40 countries.  While I absolutely love the global conversation, my company delivers boots-on-the-ground help to hundreds of mothers, parents, and their children each day in Southern California.  I recently had the honor of being there for a woman I’ve always admired and loved tremendously.  She is a good friend, a beacon of light, and a manifestation of everything thats right in the world.  My loving friend was separating from her husband.  She is an incredible mother to two girls and it is my honor to walk this leg of her journey with her.  Special thanks to thebabyspot.ca.  I treasure my partnership with this magazine and I support everything this magazine, embodying  innovation and integrity, represents.  To Krish … I love you.  Thank you for letting me in, trusting me, and letting me help.  This is a wonderful beginning for you  and for your daughters.  I am proud of you and excited to change lives together around the world. S

Enjoy and send us your feedback.  If you’d like to know more about my “7 Steps To Unlock Your Golden Handcuffs” send us an email and share your story.  We are here to help and to join you on your journey.  We are #StrongerTogether

Love and warm wishes,

AlexSandra

Posted By thebabyspot.ca on Jan 16, 2015 

Two weeks ago, thebabyspot.ca posted 7 Steps To Unlock Your Golden Handcuffs by Mom and Motivational Influencer Alexsandra Wright.
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To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright

To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright 

We are excited to say that one Mother, Motivational Speaker, Krishtine Ross, took this advice and is thriving! She has been kind enough to share her story.

IDENTIFY
Krishtine was going through a separation with her husband of thirteen years. It was hard for everyone involved and many changes were happening what seemed to be all at once.
Krishtine emphasizes that for a Mother going through a lot of stress, the safest place to be is “in the middle of a leap of faith.”

CLARIFY

One day, her coworker who was also a pastor walked through her office. He turned to her before leaving and said, “The safest place to be is in the middle of a leap of faith”. These words resonated with Krishtine for the entire day. She felt that her faith was strong and never in her life had stepped out.

DEFINE

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Krishtine knew her faith was strong but she knew that, especially during this separation, it could use some strengthening. She was a Mom and had to make a new life for herself and her children. She got up from her desk, went into the restroom and surrendered. As a Christian, she asked for God to steer her and asked Him to move her feet and lead her on a new path for her life. It was raw, vulnerable and a life changing moment.

REACH

Sometimes, reaching is not about reaching up, but reaching out. Krishtine did just that. She was overwhelmed that the very next weekend, her and her children were moving out of their family home. This could be a hard moment for any parent, but Krishtine was in awe of all of the help she had received from people she claims she had no idea would care. She felt vulnerable, but she stayed quiet, humble and moved slowly, being thankful for every little moment in her journey.

COMMIT

There were struggles. There were hard times. But Krishtine was strong. Our favorite part of this story, she became so strong that her children felt STABLE with her decisions and the big changes that were happening in her life. Krishtine describes this transition within her family as “miraculous.”

Krishtine was overwhelmed by the kindness of friends, family and acquaintances. She was given kind words, a mattress, dishes etc. for her new home. But the greatest gift was to come. Krishtine decided to write down every person’s name who helped her, so one day, she can do something nice for them. She decided for each person who helped her, she would PAY IT FORWARD to another who is in need. Her desire was to become as selfless as possible and unite hands and hearts across the globe to strengthen others experiencing the same things that she has.
With that being said, we want to welcome Krishtine Ross as a Motivational Speaker for Moms, who will contribute to thebabyspot.ca and has given some great advice to Moms everywhere…

How can Mothers stay humble?

There are many experiences that I can share as to what has kept me humble as a mother and how other mothers can stay humble. Hearing the words “Mommy” as our children affectionately call us is very humbling. The voice is endearing, it’s sincere, and it’s expecting a certain accountability. Its honesty, protection and trust. It is security, patience, nurturing and love.
Having a child is a blessing and an opportunity. When I hear the word “Mommy”, it is not only heard but processed and internalized. At that point it becomes humbling. It would be wonderful if my girls knew how many times I take an internal bow every time they call me “Mommy”.
I encourage Mothers everywhere reading this to listen with your “Mommy” ears and allow our children to help in keeping us humble daily.

Any thoughts or insight how a busy Mother can stay grateful and focused?

I believe that mothers can stay grateful and focused by not placing so much on themselves in one day. As mothers, we tend to have a desire to “take care of it all” which allows us to wear many hats. We become the nutritionist, the chauffeur, the hairstylist, the housekeeper, the janitor at times, we have laundry, etc. once I realized that EVERYTHING CAN NOT BE DONE IN ONE DAY, I became focused and I actually had time to pay attention to what was really going on around me ( Hence: I became grateful).
The main objective is to either delegate tasks to your spouse or your children if they are old enough. Everyone should help to some extent. I believe it’s important to select days of the week to complete certain tasks and give yourself a time framed to complete the task. This way there is room to focus and no one becomes overwhelmed. For instance, my laundry was complete on Thursday’s.
Once a busy mother organizes her life and her time, there becomes more than enough room to focus and become grateful for what is.

How did your children adjust after your life change? Any advice for Mothers going through something similar?

My girls adjusted very well when we moved out of one home and into our new home. It’s is important to me that I address it this way because this is what worked for us.
I believe the reason why my girls adjusted so well is because my ex-husband and I were actually sleeping in separate rooms for five years before we actually moved out so they saw and felt then separation before it ever took place. I did this because I wanted my children to have both of their parents under the same roof for as long as they possibly could as dysfunctional as it may sound. At one point, my oldest daughter even told me that she notice her father and I getting along better since being in our own space.

As they days approached that we would downsize from a four bedroom two story home to a two bedroom condo, it was EXTREMELY IMPORTANT to me that my girls room ( they would share the master bedroom) was exactly what they wanted it to be. Each side looking totally different. I wanted it to feel like home to us right away. The day we moved in, I took off of work and I painted their room two different colors as they asked. I ordered their dresser, night stands, bed frames and mattresses. I put the bed frames together that day and had fresh sheets on their mattresses, hangers in their closet, drawers for their clothes, towels for them to shower, new and clean dishes in our cabinets and food in our refrigerator. This way, it felt like home, something they are familiar with.
Outside of these things, I had to make sure that during a time that I felt insure, my girls saw my strength and they felt MOST SECURE and this is what helped in their adjusting also. Them seeing that I did not and had no intentions on cracking under the pressure. I purposely left their bedroom furniture at our other home with their father so when they are there, they do not have a feeling of abandonment.
My security gave them confidence that everything is and will be just fine and that our new home is as safe and secure as the one that we left.
If I could give other mothers out there any advice, it would be not to wait to leave. When you know for sure that you have done all that you can do, be secure in yourself and move forward with your life. Your children are more resilient than you think. I would also encourage mothers to stand strong alone when you must and together when you have support. Children should not bear witness to all of our tears.

Should we challenge Mothers to a pay it forward revolution to spread joy to one another?

I absolutely believe 100% that mothers should pay it forward. It is because of my mother and mothers before me that I am able to stand as a testimony today. You can get through your situation and more importantly, YOU WILL get through it.
As mothers we are a community of our own and we share more than we think. Motherhood is a bond that can never be broken, yet shared for generations on. There have been several times that I have heard a child call “Mom” or “Mommy” and in a flash, I turn around or answer as if it were my own child. We all have. It’s the mother in us that triggers that instinct and I believe that we all share the responsibility. Please pay it forward. Help and support other mothers.
For all of you who would like to reach Krishtine, visit her at marriagedivorcelife.blogspot.com

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New You! #2015 7 Steps To Unlock Your Golden Handcuffs #BeFree

7 Steps To Free Yourself From Golden Handcuffs

To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright

To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright

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Mom, Motivational speaker, executive, and owner of Motivating Other Mothers, Alexsandra Wright has worked with and continues to work with thousands of mothers, motivating them towards a path of personal success. It was her Mother, however, who introduced her to the term, “Golden Handcuffs”. Her mother explained that many of the things we come to rely on, beauty, money, relationships, or titles, can make us complacent and they easily become a crutch or an excuse for what we’ve come to accept for ourselves.  Alexsandra believes that the “Golden Handcuffs” are a comfortable set of boundaries and habits that keep us from reaching our full potential.

We as individuals, especially as parents, allow ourselves to be handcuffed to things that make us comfortable. Whether it is not eating properly to an unhealthy relationship, it may look nice and “golden” on the outside but it can bring distrust and decay as well as dishonor our spirit.

Alexsandra attests that at one time in her life, she too, was chained with “Golden Handcuffs”. Her executive career was a great one, her personal successes look wonderful to any outsider and financially, she was very comfortable by any standard. These were the achievements she felt defined her but they were LIMITING.

Once she was placed in the spotlight, it added to challenges of standing firm in who she was and compounded the work to move forward positively and with meaning.  She created a seven step program for herself to take off the handcuffs and make herself UNCOMFORTABLE in order to reach her true calling, to help other Mothers.

Here are the seven steps to free you from your GOLDEN HANDCUFFS:

Things you hold onto may be the things holding you back.

Things you hold onto may be the things holding you back.  ~ AlexSandra Wright

IDENTIFY – Identify what are the hindrances in your life that keep you locked into your golden handcuffs. Is it an abusive relationship? A skeleton in your closet? Are there people in your family or social circles that keep you “locked in?” Identify these people and situations. What role do you play in perpetuating your own challenges.  Be true to yourself and clearly understand where the problems lie.

CLARIFY – Understand where you’ve been.  Understand all the circumstances that surround you and your choices. Understand what you want.  Listen to the rhythm of your internal language that has created your current reality. Why are you in this situation? Understand that we have exactly what we want and we have manifested our clearest visions.

UNDERSTAND– What you have already manifested and realize what it is you truly want, without being held down by your golden handcuffs. Is it a job you will actually love without the huge paycheck? Do you want to spend more time with your children and less time with your friends or coworkers? Understand your dreams.

DEFINE-Clearly define challenges, blockages, and dependencies/co-dependencies. Simplify the challenges you may feel are very complicated and write them down.  Create your ritual of release (we write them down and light them on fire, put them in a bottle drop it in the ocean, or use lantern release).  Be easy with yourself.  Letting go is not particularly easy.  Take your time and use your soft inner affirmations to gently guide your spirit to acceptance.

REACH-Create a viable new way to reach your goal that is approached from a complete, 360 degree holistic way. Create new language for yourself (such as positive affirmations. Take out the word “But and Still”).

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COMMIT – Pledge integrity and loyalty to yourself.  Create your plan of action to manifest your new goals. Use one of our tools (#MOM vision boards, #MOM bracelets, #MOM workbooks and journals, #MOM affirmations etc…) or create your own.  Believe in yourself, you are worth the commitment, your children are worth you committing to your own happiness.  Happy parents make happy children.

MANIFEST – Honor how you inherited your golden handcuffs. Recall how you allowed yourself to be handcuff and celebrate that you are now moving forward. Breathe in the freedom.  Each day is a new step.  Celebrate all of you, while you manifest the best new you.  There is no better time to discover your infinite greatness. MOVE WITH PURPOSE

With these seven steps to success, you can unchain yourself from your golden handcuffs and celebrate a life of love, life, happiness and freedom.  You deserve the best. Now it is time for you to begin the journey of the true gift of self.

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Alexsandra does not just teach the 7 Steps out of the Golden Handcuffs, she walks the talk. Check back with us in a few weeks with another wonderful success story of a Mom leaving her Golden Handcuffs behind.  This magnificent mom will be presenting her program “Day Spa For The Spirit” around the globe in 2015-2016.  We will be posting cities, countries, and dates in February 2015.  Make sure to stop by MotivatingOtherMothers.com for sneak peeks and pre-registration.

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#MOMS SPOTLIGHT COMMUNITY BUSINESS

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CANYON KIDS PRE-SCHOOL & CAMP

5317 Topanga Boulevard

Woodland Hills, CA 91364

818-346-3388

It was sheer kismet when I met Ms. Gale Swayne, the well informed business woman behind this model of spectacular well rounded pre-school education in an enriched environment. She is the loving and compassionate proprietor of Canyon Kids Pre-School & Camp. From the moment I entered the facility, I felt at home, safe, and knew Nixon would thrive in this environment. Ms. Swayne has a fantastic track record and children enrolled in her programs benefit from a combination of learning curriculums, field trips around the neighborhood, charity work, and a “Reduce, Reuse, Recycle” program. In fact, by Nixon’s third birthday, he was monitoring my recycling habits and showing me HIS flashcards as if to test my knowledge.

Canyon Kids is the spotlight community business for November because I am so THANKFUL for Ms. Swayne, her staff, and her family. Canyon Kids went above and beyond to meet our family’s special needs of privacy and security while the other children, families were still equally as important, and their needs were met with expertise and agile ability. As Nixon prepares to go to “big boy school,” I will always be grateful for Ms. Swayne and Canyon Kids. She helped me begin my mom career with a solid foundation and a great head start for Nixon.

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Women Veterans And Wives We Salute You!

VEDC is proud to present:

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WOVEN

WOMEN VETERAN ENTREPRENEURS NETWORK
November 6, 2014
08:00 – 17:30
Patriotic Hall
1816 Figueroa Street
Los Angeles

Register for this event now!

Event Details:

Join CAMEO as our team of local small business experts delivers advice on how to start and grow your business. Gain valuable, expert insight on finding financing, applying for government certifications, and other resources for Women Veteran Entrepreneurs.

Whatever stage your business is in, we’ll have interactive, informative sessions that will give you concrete steps to move your business forward.
Start Up – from the ‘I’ve got an idea stage’ to in business less than a year
Stable – in business for less than three years, but I’m up and running
Stretch – ready to stretch my wings and grow my businesses

You won’t want to miss our keynote speaker!

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Karen Bates
Founder of Military Loans
President, The VApro Network

Juggling With Fire
JuggleWFireAs a woman in business, you hold amazing super powers when juggling all aspects of your busy life…at times, it may even feel as though you are juggling with fire. And that fire can fan the flames to new levels of success OR leave you feeling burned. Instead let your fire take you to a new level! Three take-aways from Karen’s talk:
The 3 most common fires that leave women business owners burned
How your feminine super powers are the true key to your success
The one business booster (vs. an entirely new business plan) you need to catapult your business in 2015

For more information including a full agenda, visit the CAMEO website. Note: while we are proud to offer this programming free of cost, space is limited and we will not be able to accommodate walk-ins. Don’t forget to register!
SBA’s participation in this cosponsored activity is not an endorsement of the views, opinions, products or services of any cosponsor or other person or entity. All SBA programs and services are extended to the public on a nondiscriminatory basis. Reasonable arrangements for persons with disabilities will be made if requested at least two weeks in advance. Contact: Ben Raju, 330 North Brand Boulevard, Suite 1200, Glendale, CA 91203, 818-552-3300.
Have questions about WOVEN: Women Veteran Entrepreneurs Network? Contact CAMEO

See you there! Live, Love & MOTIVATE!

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