How To Be Happy And Get The Most Out Of Life!

 How to Be Happy and Get the Most out of Life !

By: Natasha Sharma, M.Sc.


Natasha Sharma is a psychotherapist, doctoral student, author, speaker, and media spokesperson.

Natasha Sharma is a psychotherapist, doctoral student, author, speaker, and media spokesperson. Follow on Twitter @NatashaSharma17

Problems, as we all know, are a reality of living. Life can be unpredictable and will most certainly be stressful at one point or another. But it is how we respond to changes and solve a problem that have the most impact and influence to the quality of our lives, as opposed to the actual problem itself. In my practice as a Psychotherapist, I have worked with many individuals and families of all ages, ranging from issues as harrowing as psychological trauma in small children to more commonplace issues such as conflict in the workplace, or dating and relationship issues. Over the years, I have come to realize that a problem is a problem, relative to the unique context of a person’s life and individual phenomenology. Which is to say that they exist – or do not exist – based on our own personal circumstances and subjective experiences of life.

No matter what our individual circumstances are, there are things that all of us can do – whether we struggle with mental illness, extremely difficult living conditions, anxiety, depression, or just plain old boredom – to promote our psychological and emotional well-being, and therefore the quality of our lives. I call these the 4 pillars of LIFE: Love, Introspection, Fun, and Empowerment. Let’s take a closer look at each one working backwards:

Empowerment: Through constantly seeking knowledge and education about ourselves and the world around us, we Empower ourselves! That means we increase our capacity to make the best choices to suit our individual lives, and to transform those choices into the actions and outcomes that we desire. We feel stronger and more confident in our ability to control our own life and destiny.

Fun: Life is incomplete and boring without Fun! We express our individual selves every day through our tastes in food, fashion, travel, hobbies, social events, music, movies, and whatever else we are passionate about. Fun is the spice of life, and regular doses of it at every age are essential to our well-being!

Introspection: To increase self-awareness, we must look inward and recognize our unique strengths, our weaknesses, our areas of vulnerability, and our passions. We all have them. Become intimately acquainted with your unique self!

Love: Our well-being is truly enhanced by the love we receive and give to others. But most important, and foremost to good mental health, is the love we must have towards ourselves. This type of love comes through deep self-awareness, self-respect, and unconditional self-acceptance. When we are kind and forgiving of ourselves, we feel more secure and at peace. We gain more confidence, are more assertive, have more energy, are less resentful, and make good decisions that are of benefit to us. Simply put, the most important thing each of us can do to promote our own mental health is to fall in love with ourselves! When we do this, we are happy. And when we are happy, we are better mothers, fathers, daughters, sons, brothers, sisters, wives, husbands, and friends.

Many of the people I encounter in my world find themselves unable to let go of the past, or anxious about the future. We cannot change the past. But we can change the way we reflect on it and thereby re-write the story of our past. We cannot predict the future. But we can challenge our fears and assess the likelihood of events. Finally, we cannot always control life. But we can always control how we experience life.

No Mud, No Lotus

No Mud, No Lotus


Reboot your #Spirit, #Motivate with Control. Alt. Delete

About a year ago, my first article published was called Control.  Alt.  Delete.  Reboot Your Spirit.  The “hard re-boot” of my internal motherboard was extremely hard and dauntingly scary.  However, it was the best thing I could’ve done.  Through my honesty and willingness to accept myself as less than perfect, using humor and my three-step action plan, I freed myself to live, dream, and hope again.  There are still many frustrating days when I find myself slipping back into old habits and self defeating behaviors.  It happens to the best of us, all the time.  The best thing to do, is refer to a simple action plan with easy steps to remember.  As always, I share my steps with many publications and life coaching clients, being one of the most near and dear to my heart.  Ever authentic,, the Editor in Chief, and her staff, have supported me and lifted me many times…even when I couldn’t find my own voice.  Each day I remember to be grateful for at least three things, my son, my journey, and your support from around the globe.  Thank you.  Each one of you.  You enrich my life and motivate me everyday.  Thank you for all the notes and emails.  Many bring tears to my eyes. I know you’re out there.  Try to remember to enjoy your journey.  Believe that everything ALWAYS works toward the greatest good.  On tough days remember you can always change the way you experience the events in your life. Control.  Alt.  Delete. Reboot your spirit, find humor, and give love.

Control, Alt. Delete

Alexsandra Wright

As mothers and fathers, we find ourselves rolling our “tape” when we are around others. From the work setting to social gatherings, we roll a tape of what we are about and the points that we want to get across to the person listening to us. Many times, our “tape” is embellished to drive a point that we are “nice people, powerful people or respected people.” We do this because we want the listener to gage similar feelings about us. When we roll our tape, we are solidifying that our character, whether real or exaggerated, is presented in the best light to illicit whatever validation we need.   However, once the meeting is over, we have allowed a listener to think something about us that perhaps is not true and we slowly chip away at not only our moral compass, but our character.

Alexsandra Wright has a great three step method to stop this. Like a computer, we have to control, alt and delete.


The answer to being  comfortable in our truth is simple. We have to stop our tape. However, it is the procedure that is hard. Many of us can’t stop rolling out the points we want others to know. Alexsandra asserts that the first step is to CONTROL our words and thoughts.

“Stopping our tape requires us to really listen to what we are saying. Every word. We must take notice which words we use to soothe or validate ourselves, our actions, our feeling and ultimately, our existence.”

Do you find yourself name dropping? Do you want the listener to know about your powerful job or how you are a much stronger person then you really are? Why do you want them to know these things, especially if it just to get a reaction to make you feel good about yourself, garner sympathy, and position yourself as more powerful than another person?  Control yourself from falsely validating.


Alexsandra’s second step is to Alter your words, thoughts and feelings. She suggests to give yourself some time, whether alone or in a social setting to BE STILL. Think of the words you use to validate yourself. These words will “tingle” a bit according to Alexsandra. Like a slight burn, you know that these words do not feel good and it’s time to give some focus to the problem area. Alexsandra wants you to notice that you are trying to convince someone of something. That someone is not the listener, it’s YOU. Stop right there! Take a deep breath. Instead of saying something in that moment… examine YOUR moment.


Okay readers, it’s time to purge. Yes, those uncomfortable moments according to Alexsandra are the ones that make us feel that we need to be our biggest and best self. However, seize the opportunity to be your AUTHENTIC self. Say nothing. Be in your moment. Most of all, LET GO of who you think you NEED TO BE and become WHO YOU ARE.

Are you being your authentic self? Leave your story in the comments section below!

I can #Dream again … So can you! #DreamFearlessly

I knew I’d survive, after all, I always have.  I knew I’d live, after all, I always have.  I just didn’t know if I would live in Technicolor again nor if I’d ever DREAM again.  Now I know…  It’s better than a dream!  It’s my reality.  I’ve earned it.  So have you.  If you are still in the midst of your “night”…HOLD ON!! The sun will rise and so will your heart.  I’m with you every step of the way and living proof that it’s sweeter than ever, when you’ve consciously been an active participant on your journey.
Email me if your are having trouble believing!
Dream Again


Ah things ain’t what they used to be, no no
Where did all the blue skies go?

Marvin Gaye’s timeless Mercy, Mercy Me lyrics gently ring true with many mothers. How quickly life can take us full of hope and big dreams and into a pool of desperation so deep, we find ourselves swimming to get out. Have you been a mother who thought your marriage would last, but it fell apart and now you are in a situation that you have not imagined? Do you find you are struggling, holding on to each day, worried what the next would bring? Do you miss the days that you were full of hope, aspiration and big dreams? Alexandra Wright knows your pain and she can tell you first hand, she has been there.

Poison is the wind that blows from the north and south and east
Woo mercy, mercy me, mercy father

As a single mom, Alexsandra had lost everything through court battles and child support challenges. Each day was filled with unfamiliar worries of getting her son the bare necessities. She worried about what tomorrow would bring. In quiet moments, she ruefully thought of her previous career as a high powered branding executive and slowly put together strategy to return. As she sat amongst other mothers, children, and families who had lost everything, she never lost hope that she would survive, but definitely wondered if she would ever LIVE again. More over….would she ever DREAM again? Once she pulled herself out of poverty and pulled away from “surviving” chronicled here, she began to breathe in life once again and he heart swirled with joy that that she too could and would dream again.

How much more abuse from man can she stand?
Oh, na na…
My sweet Lord… No
My Lord… My sweet Lord

Alexsandra attests “Once we can clear the dense fog of toxic people, recurring bad habits, relationships, and  self doubt, we can truly manifest what we truly desire and the infinite abundance available to all of us.  Whether it is our family, our faith, or our goals, we can focus on each piece of our destiny and bring them to life. It’s about clearing the path of negativity and focusing on what you truly want out of life. Essentially, what we have learned from her, is to visualize and conceptualize. Visualize the dream you want, take the concept, and produce simple action items. Tackle each one at a time and keep track of your victories!  Make it happen! Channel your hope, faith and fortitude and DREAM again.”


“The POWER to MANIFEST our hearts desire begins within our HEARTS. During the dark times, our heart merely beats to pump blood and keep us alive. As the dawn comes and the cloak of the night lifts, so will your heart. You WILL live again. You WILL dream again… I know… I’m living it!” ~ Alexsandra Wright.

Alexsandra now can say that she is building her dream of Motivating Other Mothers globally. Check with her website for updated manifestations, inspiration and wisdom. Most recently, she is working with Marvin Gaye III and his phenomenal wife Wendy on a new project called “Rise Up” that will inspire change for all of us. ‘Rise Up” teams up with many wonderful organizations and charities that will double the efforts to give back in every meaningful way. We all need a hand and this team, will be reaching around the world to help. Alexsandra wants you to turn yourself back to manifesting your dreams, so you can look back at your past life and say “Ah things ain’t what they used to be” and feel good about it.

“The opportunities, the people and the joy in my life have only grown by leaps and bounds. My career has flourished into more than I have dared to dream before and the freedom of letting go of the shackles from yesterday allow me to soar to new heights.  I’ve opened offices in Beverly Hills and am working with a true Dream Team.  Nixon is thriving and happy.   I am LIVING! I am DREAMING! I am LOVING. I have never felt better.” Alexsandra Wright

Author: thebabyspotca

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Hold On To Hope

As we say goodbye to what was 2014, the word that resonates within my spirit is HOPE.


There are many keys to opening up a new future, to saying goodbye to the past, and to inventing a brand-new you. Each moment has its own significance, but the most significant ingredient of all is hope. Throughout the year, we go through so many changes, so many versions of ourselves, both good and bad. The foundation of change and growth is hope. Hope for a new day, hope to heal the sick, hope for a new job, hope for new breakthroughs, hope for love, and hope for change.

I really had no idea that I would achieve as much as I did in 2014. Looking back, it was not just overcoming obvious challenges; it was overcoming the challenge of ego, humility, acceptance, and abandonment, while practicing the ultimate strength through adversity. It was a year of accepting many things that I could not control and ultimately realizing that all I could control were my reactions. This propelled me to stay positive through all the surreal twists and turns and delivered me safely to 2015.  My resume and my life had once again exploded.  This time exponentially, with the mark of “service-to-others” deeply ingrained with permanent ink and emblazoned in my soul.

Today I can tell you this: Mission Accomplished. Through all of the challenges physically, mentally, and spiritually, I did not know that I would ever see the sun rise. It was like a long night that seemed to go on forever. As I leaned into the pain, the confusion, and the unknown, I learned to walk with grace through every moment.

The woman, the executive, the daughter, and the mother that entered 2014 had been re-shaped, re-molded, and ultimately re-birthed. There were unforeseen circumstances that I certainly did not think I had enough “bandwidth” to get through. In the darkest of moments, even when my faith ran low, I learned to celebrate hope. When my heart was breaking I leaned into hope. When things made no sense and were unjust, I leaned into hope. Through the laughter and the tears, I leaned into hope. I have developed many life tools to successfully navigate through the darkest of days, all of which I will share with you this year on, and on the road in cities around the world. The most important constant is HOPE! You will make it through all of your challenges. I just know you will. I believe in you and I have lots of extra hope safely tucked away in my toolbox if you need more! You CAN and you WILL make a stronger YOU. We lose people, we gain people, we lose jobs, we gain jobs; a cacophony of mysterious silk threads make the tapestry we call life. The most important “stitch” is hope.

“Anything you feel is missing can be found. Any needs you may have will be met. There is ultimate and unlimited love and abundance waiting for you.” – AlexSandra Wright

You have to have hope. You have to give hope. You have to embrace help. You have to find hope when you can see no hope. You have to find a way where it seems there is no way. You have to make something out of nothing. What you will find is your omnipotent excellence. In hope you find your dreams, your aspirations, your love, and your victories.

As I embark on this next leg of my journey, I know that I am living in my passion and purpose. I embrace every moment. I am grateful for everyone and everything that appeared in my life that helped me get to this point. Now I am ready to change the world one heart at a time. One love at a time. One hope at a time. Thank you for supporting this movement. May you find hope in every experience that comes to you. May you bring help to everyone that meets your path. May you find forgiveness, light, and love to share with everyone on your journey. I have hope within me and that is why am strong.

Until we meet friend, here is my gift to you.


Knapsack Of Hope

KNAPSACK OF HOPE Remind yourself that everything is already working toward your greatest good. Breathe, lean into your feelings, and hold on to HOPE!


Find each of these items and wrap them in white silk. Tie your knapsack with a matching piece of silk in purple, pink, green, or blue and tuck your precious bundle safely away, yet always close. When hope runs low, close your eyes, hold the knapsack close to your heart and BELIEVE.


One – STAR (gold or other) This will remind you to keep shining.

One – PAPER CLIP to help you hold things together.

One – ERASER to fix all the little mistakes.

One – LOCK to keep all your secrets safe.

One – PENNY so that you are never broke.

One – RUBBER BAND to help you stretch beyond your limits.



#MOMS INSPIRATION Krishtine Ross Unlocks Her Golden Handcuffs. You can too!

I am so honored to bring this next installment of the Golden Handcuff Project to you.  As you know I work with thousands of moms and children around the world. Each person moves me, it is never redundant or a matter of going through the motions.  I come to love and care about each person that reaches out to me and my staff.  To say: “around the world” is a huge statement, however it is completely true.  There are countries I’ve come to wistfully dream of as I open communications with people in places I’ve never been.  I’m proud to say is changing lives in over 40 countries.  While I absolutely love the global conversation, my company delivers boots-on-the-ground help to hundreds of mothers, parents, and their children each day in Southern California.  I recently had the honor of being there for a woman I’ve always admired and loved tremendously.  She is a good friend, a beacon of light, and a manifestation of everything thats right in the world.  My loving friend was separating from her husband.  She is an incredible mother to two girls and it is my honor to walk this leg of her journey with her.  Special thanks to  I treasure my partnership with this magazine and I support everything this magazine, embodying  innovation and integrity, represents.  To Krish … I love you.  Thank you for letting me in, trusting me, and letting me help.  This is a wonderful beginning for you  and for your daughters.  I am proud of you and excited to change lives together around the world. S

Enjoy and send us your feedback.  If you’d like to know more about my “7 Steps To Unlock Your Golden Handcuffs” send us an email and share your story.  We are here to help and to join you on your journey.  We are #StrongerTogether

Love and warm wishes,


Posted By on Jan 16, 2015 

Two weeks ago, posted 7 Steps To Unlock Your Golden Handcuffs by Mom and Motivational Influencer Alexsandra Wright.

To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright

To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright 

We are excited to say that one Mother, Motivational Speaker, Krishtine Ross, took this advice and is thriving! She has been kind enough to share her story.

Krishtine was going through a separation with her husband of thirteen years. It was hard for everyone involved and many changes were happening what seemed to be all at once.
Krishtine emphasizes that for a Mother going through a lot of stress, the safest place to be is “in the middle of a leap of faith.”


One day, her coworker who was also a pastor walked through her office. He turned to her before leaving and said, “The safest place to be is in the middle of a leap of faith”. These words resonated with Krishtine for the entire day. She felt that her faith was strong and never in her life had stepped out.


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Krishtine knew her faith was strong but she knew that, especially during this separation, it could use some strengthening. She was a Mom and had to make a new life for herself and her children. She got up from her desk, went into the restroom and surrendered. As a Christian, she asked for God to steer her and asked Him to move her feet and lead her on a new path for her life. It was raw, vulnerable and a life changing moment.


Sometimes, reaching is not about reaching up, but reaching out. Krishtine did just that. She was overwhelmed that the very next weekend, her and her children were moving out of their family home. This could be a hard moment for any parent, but Krishtine was in awe of all of the help she had received from people she claims she had no idea would care. She felt vulnerable, but she stayed quiet, humble and moved slowly, being thankful for every little moment in her journey.


There were struggles. There were hard times. But Krishtine was strong. Our favorite part of this story, she became so strong that her children felt STABLE with her decisions and the big changes that were happening in her life. Krishtine describes this transition within her family as “miraculous.”

Krishtine was overwhelmed by the kindness of friends, family and acquaintances. She was given kind words, a mattress, dishes etc. for her new home. But the greatest gift was to come. Krishtine decided to write down every person’s name who helped her, so one day, she can do something nice for them. She decided for each person who helped her, she would PAY IT FORWARD to another who is in need. Her desire was to become as selfless as possible and unite hands and hearts across the globe to strengthen others experiencing the same things that she has.
With that being said, we want to welcome Krishtine Ross as a Motivational Speaker for Moms, who will contribute to and has given some great advice to Moms everywhere…

How can Mothers stay humble?

There are many experiences that I can share as to what has kept me humble as a mother and how other mothers can stay humble. Hearing the words “Mommy” as our children affectionately call us is very humbling. The voice is endearing, it’s sincere, and it’s expecting a certain accountability. Its honesty, protection and trust. It is security, patience, nurturing and love.
Having a child is a blessing and an opportunity. When I hear the word “Mommy”, it is not only heard but processed and internalized. At that point it becomes humbling. It would be wonderful if my girls knew how many times I take an internal bow every time they call me “Mommy”.
I encourage Mothers everywhere reading this to listen with your “Mommy” ears and allow our children to help in keeping us humble daily.

Any thoughts or insight how a busy Mother can stay grateful and focused?

I believe that mothers can stay grateful and focused by not placing so much on themselves in one day. As mothers, we tend to have a desire to “take care of it all” which allows us to wear many hats. We become the nutritionist, the chauffeur, the hairstylist, the housekeeper, the janitor at times, we have laundry, etc. once I realized that EVERYTHING CAN NOT BE DONE IN ONE DAY, I became focused and I actually had time to pay attention to what was really going on around me ( Hence: I became grateful).
The main objective is to either delegate tasks to your spouse or your children if they are old enough. Everyone should help to some extent. I believe it’s important to select days of the week to complete certain tasks and give yourself a time framed to complete the task. This way there is room to focus and no one becomes overwhelmed. For instance, my laundry was complete on Thursday’s.
Once a busy mother organizes her life and her time, there becomes more than enough room to focus and become grateful for what is.

How did your children adjust after your life change? Any advice for Mothers going through something similar?

My girls adjusted very well when we moved out of one home and into our new home. It’s is important to me that I address it this way because this is what worked for us.
I believe the reason why my girls adjusted so well is because my ex-husband and I were actually sleeping in separate rooms for five years before we actually moved out so they saw and felt then separation before it ever took place. I did this because I wanted my children to have both of their parents under the same roof for as long as they possibly could as dysfunctional as it may sound. At one point, my oldest daughter even told me that she notice her father and I getting along better since being in our own space.

As they days approached that we would downsize from a four bedroom two story home to a two bedroom condo, it was EXTREMELY IMPORTANT to me that my girls room ( they would share the master bedroom) was exactly what they wanted it to be. Each side looking totally different. I wanted it to feel like home to us right away. The day we moved in, I took off of work and I painted their room two different colors as they asked. I ordered their dresser, night stands, bed frames and mattresses. I put the bed frames together that day and had fresh sheets on their mattresses, hangers in their closet, drawers for their clothes, towels for them to shower, new and clean dishes in our cabinets and food in our refrigerator. This way, it felt like home, something they are familiar with.
Outside of these things, I had to make sure that during a time that I felt insure, my girls saw my strength and they felt MOST SECURE and this is what helped in their adjusting also. Them seeing that I did not and had no intentions on cracking under the pressure. I purposely left their bedroom furniture at our other home with their father so when they are there, they do not have a feeling of abandonment.
My security gave them confidence that everything is and will be just fine and that our new home is as safe and secure as the one that we left.
If I could give other mothers out there any advice, it would be not to wait to leave. When you know for sure that you have done all that you can do, be secure in yourself and move forward with your life. Your children are more resilient than you think. I would also encourage mothers to stand strong alone when you must and together when you have support. Children should not bear witness to all of our tears.

Should we challenge Mothers to a pay it forward revolution to spread joy to one another?

I absolutely believe 100% that mothers should pay it forward. It is because of my mother and mothers before me that I am able to stand as a testimony today. You can get through your situation and more importantly, YOU WILL get through it.
As mothers we are a community of our own and we share more than we think. Motherhood is a bond that can never be broken, yet shared for generations on. There have been several times that I have heard a child call “Mom” or “Mommy” and in a flash, I turn around or answer as if it were my own child. We all have. It’s the mother in us that triggers that instinct and I believe that we all share the responsibility. Please pay it forward. Help and support other mothers.
For all of you who would like to reach Krishtine, visit her at


New You! #2015 7 Steps To Unlock Your Golden Handcuffs #BeFree

7 Steps To Free Yourself From Golden Handcuffs

To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright

To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright

Motivating Other Mothers


Mom, Motivational speaker, executive, and owner of Motivating Other Mothers, Alexsandra Wright has worked with and continues to work with thousands of mothers, motivating them towards a path of personal success. It was her Mother, however, who introduced her to the term, “Golden Handcuffs”. Her mother explained that many of the things we come to rely on, beauty, money, relationships, or titles, can make us complacent and they easily become a crutch or an excuse for what we’ve come to accept for ourselves.  Alexsandra believes that the “Golden Handcuffs” are a comfortable set of boundaries and habits that keep us from reaching our full potential.

We as individuals, especially as parents, allow ourselves to be handcuffed to things that make us comfortable. Whether it is not eating properly to an unhealthy relationship, it may look nice and “golden” on the outside but it can bring distrust and decay as well as dishonor our spirit.

Alexsandra attests that at one time in her life, she too, was chained with “Golden Handcuffs”. Her executive career was a great one, her personal successes look wonderful to any outsider and financially, she was very comfortable by any standard. These were the achievements she felt defined her but they were LIMITING.

Once she was placed in the spotlight, it added to challenges of standing firm in who she was and compounded the work to move forward positively and with meaning.  She created a seven step program for herself to take off the handcuffs and make herself UNCOMFORTABLE in order to reach her true calling, to help other Mothers.

Here are the seven steps to free you from your GOLDEN HANDCUFFS:

Things you hold onto may be the things holding you back.

Things you hold onto may be the things holding you back.  ~ AlexSandra Wright

IDENTIFY – Identify what are the hindrances in your life that keep you locked into your golden handcuffs. Is it an abusive relationship? A skeleton in your closet? Are there people in your family or social circles that keep you “locked in?” Identify these people and situations. What role do you play in perpetuating your own challenges.  Be true to yourself and clearly understand where the problems lie.

CLARIFY – Understand where you’ve been.  Understand all the circumstances that surround you and your choices. Understand what you want.  Listen to the rhythm of your internal language that has created your current reality. Why are you in this situation? Understand that we have exactly what we want and we have manifested our clearest visions.

UNDERSTAND– What you have already manifested and realize what it is you truly want, without being held down by your golden handcuffs. Is it a job you will actually love without the huge paycheck? Do you want to spend more time with your children and less time with your friends or coworkers? Understand your dreams.

DEFINE-Clearly define challenges, blockages, and dependencies/co-dependencies. Simplify the challenges you may feel are very complicated and write them down.  Create your ritual of release (we write them down and light them on fire, put them in a bottle drop it in the ocean, or use lantern release).  Be easy with yourself.  Letting go is not particularly easy.  Take your time and use your soft inner affirmations to gently guide your spirit to acceptance.

REACH-Create a viable new way to reach your goal that is approached from a complete, 360 degree holistic way. Create new language for yourself (such as positive affirmations. Take out the word “But and Still”).

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COMMIT – Pledge integrity and loyalty to yourself.  Create your plan of action to manifest your new goals. Use one of our tools (#MOM vision boards, #MOM bracelets, #MOM workbooks and journals, #MOM affirmations etc…) or create your own.  Believe in yourself, you are worth the commitment, your children are worth you committing to your own happiness.  Happy parents make happy children.

MANIFEST – Honor how you inherited your golden handcuffs. Recall how you allowed yourself to be handcuff and celebrate that you are now moving forward. Breathe in the freedom.  Each day is a new step.  Celebrate all of you, while you manifest the best new you.  There is no better time to discover your infinite greatness. MOVE WITH PURPOSE

With these seven steps to success, you can unchain yourself from your golden handcuffs and celebrate a life of love, life, happiness and freedom.  You deserve the best. Now it is time for you to begin the journey of the true gift of self.

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Alexsandra does not just teach the 7 Steps out of the Golden Handcuffs, she walks the talk. Check back with us in a few weeks with another wonderful success story of a Mom leaving her Golden Handcuffs behind.  This magnificent mom will be presenting her program “Day Spa For The Spirit” around the globe in 2015-2016.  We will be posting cities, countries, and dates in February 2015.  Make sure to stop by for sneak peeks and pre-registration.

Author: thebabyspotca

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#AlexSandra #Christmas Spotlight Motivating Other Mothers

Motivating Other Mothers


“I am worthless, I am a horrible Mother, I don’t know how to move on with my kids after my divorce.” These are some of the cries for help that Alexsandra Wright hears every day from Mothers who are desperate for someone, anyone to listen to their story. Alexsandra is a Mother with great passion and dedication to motivating other Mothers. She is an executive with vast experience in PR, branding and strategic marketing (to name a few). Her impressive resume does not only have big named celebrities and business people to attest to her excellent work, but also the voices of over 2000 Mothers and children in 2014 alone, thanking Alexsandra for anything from finding them a home to getting their Mother a new career. This is a woman who knows how to give back to people who need it the most. How can she handle such a large, diverse cliental? Her empire, her movement, Motivating Other Mothers, is dedicated to changing the way Mothers see themselves.


Transcending To Grace

Alexsandra knows the fear of a Mother’s desperation all too well. When she had given birth to Nixon, her handsome little boy, there was a controversy. Alexsandra had a long term relationship with a high profiled celebrity who was, at the time, married. Though Alexsandra takes accountability for her part in this, when she gave birth to little Nixon, something changed.
When Nixon was born, Alexsandra, “transcended anything human. I understood what love and responsibility was. This gift of this little human being to me is something that I am so grateful for every day. He (Nixon) is a better person than me, he is smarter than me, he brought healing to me and my entire family. He was delivered to me, perfect.”

Alexsandra remembers after bringing little Nixon home for the first time that “Golden Slumbers” a series of lullabies by Dave Koz was playing. A soft jazz version of “Isn’t She (and he) Lovely was playing and she held her little boy in her arms and began to weep tears of joy. She was humbled. She was overwhelmed. She felt so much gratitude. She had transcended. Little Nixon will be loved and protected. He will get a chance to grow and be nurtured in peace. Every Mother, like Alexsandra, has one moment where everything in the world is secondary to the gift that is their child.

Anchoring In Muddy Waters


With a little baby, Alexsandra had gone for public assistance. She had very little. She sat in the classroom that was mandated to learn how to construct a resume. In the classroom of the frustrated and unemployed, she realized something. The facilitator of this mandatory class for those on public assistance was extremely motivated to help. The class full of those who required the assistance, were not. Many of them were single Mothers. They made the facilitators job a difficult one, but Alexsandra sensed the frustration of the Mothers and worse, she saw the facilitator lose her hope in helping these people get on their feet again. Alexsandra knew that she could help these Mothers. That, in her state of loss, she wanted to help others who felt like they had nothing. She packed up anything in her house that she was not using, old clothes of her own and some that her son had out grew and started giving away her things to these Mothers. One Mother in particular, struck a chord with Alexsandra. A twenty year old single Mother had a four year old child and was getting a divorce. She loved fashion but had no formal education. This young Mom had convinced herself that she would not amount to anything. It dawned on Alexsandra that this young girl would be a great product ambassador. Astonished, the young girl applied and got a job. She got off public assistance. If Alexsandra could inspire one Mother to reach her full potential and get off public assistance, why not more? Why not all of them?


Instead of fearing this difficult time of poverty and loss, she decided to firmly plant her feet into it. She created Motivating Other Mothers, a website dedicated to helping Moms with all problems by teaching Moms to motivate each other. She started working at the DA’s office and went back to her previous career in branding. However, her passion is families. She can only remember the peace she felt holding little Nixon that first night with that sweet lullaby playing in her head. She had her purpose. She had a voice, then it was time to fly.

I became a mother and lost a mother in one year

With great sadness, Alexsandra was blessed with Motherhood and had her own Mother had passed away. Thankfully, Alexsandra’s Mother had gotten to see her little baby Nixon, but time is short. Alexsandra’s family is a great one and the glue that held it all together was her Mother. Alexsandra had such a good Mother she had planted a seed of strength in Alexsandra and now Alex takes this power and wants to harvest it with not only her precious son, but Mothers everywhere.
Cradling the Seed

“I am present for each part, every victory or defeat, I was seeing everyone around me and I poured love, energy, passion and learning into other people, especially mothers and children.”

Alexsandra continued helping everyone who wanted it, from her celebrity Mother friends right down to a Mother she would meet on the street. She took her vast knowledge of branding and her love of social interaction and combined it with her passion, helping others. As she moved forward, she attests that we should all give back to those in need. To Alexsandra, that is the seed of true success “Move Forward, give back.”

Surface Blossom

“I am the proactive catalyst to change our existence and this defines me.”


Why are there so many women who are afraid to use their voice? Alexsandra puts it simply, “Not to victimize women, but women take a beating at every turn. The woman who works two to three jobs to keep her single parent family afloat hardly has time to spend quality time with her child.” The woman on assistance has put her children in a home where they will have to struggle for the necessities. These two situations can feel like there is nowhere to turn. Alexsandra has been there and she knows how to help.
Many women are programmed to shun confrontation and controversy. They will go out of their way to avoid it. Alexsandra attests. Even if that means not fighting for their deserved child support. It’s hard for these women to bond together because

“When you put two or three broken people together who lack faith in humanity they cannot be bonded together. It’s so hard to find value in what our life has become and stay sane.”

Rise from the Roots


Alexsandra wants to make Mothers into Spiritual Gangsters. What does that mean? For every scary, controversial thing that happens to a Mother, whether it be a divorce, a job loss, the hardships of raising children, unexpected life turns, instead of hiding, denying or collapsing into yourself, Alexsandra challenges each of you to “show up and have the gut strength to walk into the fire. You will get bumps and bruises but like a phoenix you will rise from the ashes. That is a Spiritual Gangster.”
Alexsandra is a driving force to be a beacon for the Mother who never fit in, for the Mother who does not know how to stand on her own two feet after a divorce, for the little child who deserves MORE. She will walk each painful step with you and help you join a community that cares. Motivating Other Mothers  is your light when there is darkness. Narrate your new survival story with Alexsandra, plant yourself in muddy waters and blossom.

Alexsandra is an executive, a motivator, a beacon for thousands of women already, but at the end of it all, when the day has ended, she is, most of all, a woman that consciously and wholeheartedly loves her son, and her selfless and dedicated work is testimony of that love. Join her on this game changing journey and begin the path of MOTIVATION.

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The Present Is Our Gift

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Friends, I’m so glad you decided to share this sentiment and this moment with me.  I am ever so appreciative of all the support Nixon and I receive from around the globe and I never want to miss a positive note or let someone go un-thanked.  I begin from a place of gratitude and love.  Thank you!

That said, it isn’t always easy to stay in the present.  My head gets clouded with thoughts of “what’s next…” and “I should’ve…”.  Each day as we work toward a more conscious self, we become more aware of the roads we have traveled, where we are, and of course, where we are going.   I shake it off and remember that it is only this moment that counts, and my choice to love, and to give, are ever present, as the current moment is always … well … current.

Living in that realization, I know I can create a string of perfect moments, that together, in essence create a powerful and meaningful existence.  An existence without fear or regret, an existence that constantly moves forward and actively participates in helping the greater good of me, my family and “us” as a collective.  This is when I am at my best.  It is when you are at your best as well.  Don’t let darkness cloud the light that you already are.  Focus on the positive messages consistently showing themselves to you.  The energy of goodness is always around, the challenge is to constantly choose goodness.

Each day, as I give more of myself by living in my truth and supporting others (remember reciprocity is important), I am moved by the generosity and loving spirits that support me and give me the encouragement to let my voice be heard.  From the effervescent Barry Jordan, Jr., who has penned fantastic children’s books “Grandma Can I Get A Dog” and “Mom! What’s That,” to my folks “across the pond” in the UK that stand strong with Nixon and I in the media. As I remain open, the more love envelops me. I mustn’t forget my Canadian family, I am so proud to have dual citizenship.  Canadians are open and loyal.   I find respite there and in the hearts of the people who live in my sister country.

It is that love and support that enables me to continue to reach out and help others.  My challenges are far from over, and Nixon’s are just beginning.  I repeat to myself over and over “To move forward, keep giving back”.  I have bad days, I have sad days, there are days I just want to cry and ponder the past or wonder about the future.  I know to be kind to myself, honoring my journey … honoring my spirit.  I am doing the best I can and I am proud to be who I am.  My son lives in a strange and alternate universe and my heart aches for him to have a normal existence, however, we all live a strange existence and we are all trying to find our place.  We are all striving to find a place of comfort and acceptance within our day to day lives, which leads us to rue the past or ponder the future.  No one person is any better nor different, than any other person. Some journeys are simply just more visible. Shedding fear and embracing courage, we can all affect change and make things better for those around us and ourselves at the same time.  Accountability, compassion, and an open heart are the only components that are able to differentiate the outcomes

That is exactly why the present is a gift.  It is given and renewed over and over.  The present is the continuum that is everlasting and it is the only true space where we can love, create, sing, dance, manifest and meditate.  It is the present that makes us ever powerful, it is the present that is already full of the electric energy lighting the path for us to see our way forward in the exact way we are meant to. The gift of “the present” cannot be re-gifted, nor recreated.  It is something we must embrace now.

I am so proud of you and know you are loved.  You are not called to be perfect, you are only called to “BE”.  You are more than enough, you are powerful and strong, you are beautiful, and you are unique.  There is no comparison, there is no grass that is greener.  Whether you are looking back or looking forward, stop to unwrap the gift that is eternally given to you … the present.

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