“I’ll do it tomorrow…” 4 Tips for How to Avoid Procrastination and Get Things Done!

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“I’ll do it tomorrow…”

4 Tips for How to Avoid Procrastination and Get Things Done!


Natasha Sharma M.Sc OACCPP

NKS Therapy

Natasha Sharma is a psychotherapist, doctoral student, author, speaker, and media spokesperson.

Natasha Sharma is a psychotherapist, doctoral student, author, speaker, and media spokesperson.


A stunningly high number of clients I see in my practice complain about the dreaded P-word: Procrastination. They have ideas, goals, small tasks and large ones, and never seem to complete any of them. When I ask them what gets in the way, the answer is often “I don’t know.” Procrastination – aka the ‘art’ of putting things off until another day – is incredibly common. Not that big of a deal for things that actually can wait, but perfectly annoying when there are things we genuinely need to get done sooner rather than later. It’s a problem that plagues the busy and the not-so-busy, over-achievers and under-achievers, the younger and the older. Why is this?

Human beings are creatures of habit, and our brains have a tendency to favour routine. So any tasks that drastically deviate from our daily routines require more effort from our brains, in the form of conscious self-motivation, organization, and initiation to those very tasks. And, in case you didn’t already know it, our brains don’t like to work! But constant procrastination often leaves us feeling disorganized, unproductive, and downright down on ourselves. And in the worst cases it can lead things to pile up forcing us to do everything at the last minute, which can be overwhelming and incredibly stressful.

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Gail Devers

World Class Olympic Athlete, Woman, Philahthopist, #MOM


Here are 4 tips for how to avoid procrastination once and for all:

for how to avoid procrastination once and for all:

  1. Get a good night’s rest – every night! Procrastination is linked to the self-regulatory mechanisms of our bodies, also called executive functioning, which is chaired by the pre-frontal cortex area of our brains. Without adequate rest, this area of the brain simply cannot function at its optimal level, so organizing your time will be more difficult. Granted I said our brains are lazy, but don’t deprive them of a full 8 hours every single night. And if you can handle it, one good, strong cup of coffee in the morning will kick-start your pre-frontal cortex and get you ready for action.
  1. Don’t try to do it all; pick a few things! Picture this: You have a paper to write for a class you’re taking, your taxes are due, you’ve always wanted to learn how to build furniture, learn to speak Swahili, write a book…slow down! If your brain is overwhelmed with too many tasks, it won’t try for any of them! Instead, pick one or two things you really want or need to do and shoot for those to start. Once they are done, pick one or two more, and so on. Research has consistently shown that this method of ‘chunking’ things out helps to get things done faster.
  1. Write things down. This is an oldie but a goodie. Research has also shown that writing things down is more strongly correlated with completion of said things as compared to when we don’t write things down. Why? Accountability. Also, there’s a certain satisfaction in the physical act of deleting an item off of your “to do” list – it can be so gratifying!
  1. Use pleasure as a reward. Still got your pen out? Make a list of things you like in life; things that bring you sheer joy and pleasure. They can be things you do every day or things you occasionally splurge on. Be it an hour at the gym, taking a long hot bath, having a glass of wine, watching a ‘guilty-pleasure’ movie, whatever. Look at your list and use the things on it as rewards for getting something done. Promise yourself that: “After I write half of that report for work, I will watch an hour of TV” and “after I write the rest of the report tomorrow, I will play tennis with Bob.” And then make sure you do reward yourself with something after you finish. This is effectively training your own brain to anticipate rewards for not procrastinating, thereby doing it less and less frequently. Because in addition to being kind of lazy, our brains love to be rewarded!

Put these 4 tips into action and you’ll likely notice a big change in how often you put things off for another day. And in how you feel about yourself. Now if you’ll excuse me, my reward for writing this article is an episode of “Suits.” I’m totally addicted.





How To Be Happy And Get The Most Out Of Life!

 How to Be Happy and Get the Most out of Life !

By: Natasha Sharma, M.Sc.


Natasha Sharma is a psychotherapist, doctoral student, author, speaker, and media spokesperson.

Natasha Sharma is a psychotherapist, doctoral student, author, speaker, and media spokesperson. Follow on Twitter @NatashaSharma17

Problems, as we all know, are a reality of living. Life can be unpredictable and will most certainly be stressful at one point or another. But it is how we respond to changes and solve a problem that have the most impact and influence to the quality of our lives, as opposed to the actual problem itself. In my practice as a Psychotherapist, I have worked with many individuals and families of all ages, ranging from issues as harrowing as psychological trauma in small children to more commonplace issues such as conflict in the workplace, or dating and relationship issues. Over the years, I have come to realize that a problem is a problem, relative to the unique context of a person’s life and individual phenomenology. Which is to say that they exist – or do not exist – based on our own personal circumstances and subjective experiences of life.

No matter what our individual circumstances are, there are things that all of us can do – whether we struggle with mental illness, extremely difficult living conditions, anxiety, depression, or just plain old boredom – to promote our psychological and emotional well-being, and therefore the quality of our lives. I call these the 4 pillars of LIFE: Love, Introspection, Fun, and Empowerment. Let’s take a closer look at each one working backwards:

Empowerment: Through constantly seeking knowledge and education about ourselves and the world around us, we Empower ourselves! That means we increase our capacity to make the best choices to suit our individual lives, and to transform those choices into the actions and outcomes that we desire. We feel stronger and more confident in our ability to control our own life and destiny.

Fun: Life is incomplete and boring without Fun! We express our individual selves every day through our tastes in food, fashion, travel, hobbies, social events, music, movies, and whatever else we are passionate about. Fun is the spice of life, and regular doses of it at every age are essential to our well-being!

Introspection: To increase self-awareness, we must look inward and recognize our unique strengths, our weaknesses, our areas of vulnerability, and our passions. We all have them. Become intimately acquainted with your unique self!

Love: Our well-being is truly enhanced by the love we receive and give to others. But most important, and foremost to good mental health, is the love we must have towards ourselves. This type of love comes through deep self-awareness, self-respect, and unconditional self-acceptance. When we are kind and forgiving of ourselves, we feel more secure and at peace. We gain more confidence, are more assertive, have more energy, are less resentful, and make good decisions that are of benefit to us. Simply put, the most important thing each of us can do to promote our own mental health is to fall in love with ourselves! When we do this, we are happy. And when we are happy, we are better mothers, fathers, daughters, sons, brothers, sisters, wives, husbands, and friends.

Many of the people I encounter in my world find themselves unable to let go of the past, or anxious about the future. We cannot change the past. But we can change the way we reflect on it and thereby re-write the story of our past. We cannot predict the future. But we can challenge our fears and assess the likelihood of events. Finally, we cannot always control life. But we can always control how we experience life.

No Mud, No Lotus

No Mud, No Lotus

Reboot your #Spirit, #Motivate with Control. Alt. Delete

About a year ago, my first article published was called Control.  Alt.  Delete.  Reboot Your Spirit.  The “hard re-boot” of my internal motherboard was extremely hard and dauntingly scary.  However, it was the best thing I could’ve done.  Through my honesty and willingness to accept myself as less than perfect, using humor and my three-step action plan, I freed myself to live, dream, and hope again.  There are still many frustrating days when I find myself slipping back into old habits and self defeating behaviors.  It happens to the best of us, all the time.  The best thing to do, is refer to a simple action plan with easy steps to remember.  As always, I share my steps with many publications and life coaching clients, thebabyspot.ca being one of the most near and dear to my heart.  Ever authentic, thebabyspot.ca, the Editor in Chief, and her staff, have supported me and lifted me many times…even when I couldn’t find my own voice.  Each day I remember to be grateful for at least three things, my son, my journey, and your support from around the globe.  Thank you.  Each one of you.  You enrich my life and motivate me everyday.  Thank you for all the notes and emails.  Many bring tears to my eyes. I know you’re out there.  Try to remember to enjoy your journey.  Believe that everything ALWAYS works toward the greatest good.  On tough days remember you can always change the way you experience the events in your life. Control.  Alt.  Delete. Reboot your spirit, find humor, and give love.

Control, Alt. Delete


Alexsandra Wright

As mothers and fathers, we find ourselves rolling our “tape” when we are around others. From the work setting to social gatherings, we roll a tape of what we are about and the points that we want to get across to the person listening to us. Many times, our “tape” is embellished to drive a point that we are “nice people, powerful people or respected people.” We do this because we want the listener to gage similar feelings about us. When we roll our tape, we are solidifying that our character, whether real or exaggerated, is presented in the best light to illicit whatever validation we need.   However, once the meeting is over, we have allowed a listener to think something about us that perhaps is not true and we slowly chip away at not only our moral compass, but our character.

Alexsandra Wright has a great three step method to stop this. Like a computer, we have to control, alt and delete.


The answer to being  comfortable in our truth is simple. We have to stop our tape. However, it is the procedure that is hard. Many of us can’t stop rolling out the points we want others to know. Alexsandra asserts that the first step is to CONTROL our words and thoughts.

“Stopping our tape requires us to really listen to what we are saying. Every word. We must take notice which words we use to soothe or validate ourselves, our actions, our feeling and ultimately, our existence.”

Do you find yourself name dropping? Do you want the listener to know about your powerful job or how you are a much stronger person then you really are? Why do you want them to know these things, especially if it just to get a reaction to make you feel good about yourself, garner sympathy, and position yourself as more powerful than another person?  Control yourself from falsely validating.


Alexsandra’s second step is to Alter your words, thoughts and feelings. She suggests to give yourself some time, whether alone or in a social setting to BE STILL. Think of the words you use to validate yourself. These words will “tingle” a bit according to Alexsandra. Like a slight burn, you know that these words do not feel good and it’s time to give some focus to the problem area. Alexsandra wants you to notice that you are trying to convince someone of something. That someone is not the listener, it’s YOU. Stop right there! Take a deep breath. Instead of saying something in that moment… examine YOUR moment.


Okay readers, it’s time to purge. Yes, those uncomfortable moments according to Alexsandra are the ones that make us feel that we need to be our biggest and best self. However, seize the opportunity to be your AUTHENTIC self. Say nothing. Be in your moment. Most of all, LET GO of who you think you NEED TO BE and become WHO YOU ARE.

Are you being your authentic self? Leave your story in the comments section below!

Hold On To Hope

As we say goodbye to what was 2014, the word that resonates within my spirit is HOPE.


There are many keys to opening up a new future, to saying goodbye to the past, and to inventing a brand-new you. Each moment has its own significance, but the most significant ingredient of all is hope. Throughout the year, we go through so many changes, so many versions of ourselves, both good and bad. The foundation of change and growth is hope. Hope for a new day, hope to heal the sick, hope for a new job, hope for new breakthroughs, hope for love, and hope for change.

I really had no idea that I would achieve as much as I did in 2014. Looking back, it was not just overcoming obvious challenges; it was overcoming the challenge of ego, humility, acceptance, and abandonment, while practicing the ultimate strength through adversity. It was a year of accepting many things that I could not control and ultimately realizing that all I could control were my reactions. This propelled me to stay positive through all the surreal twists and turns and delivered me safely to 2015.  My resume and my life had once again exploded.  This time exponentially, with the mark of “service-to-others” deeply ingrained with permanent ink and emblazoned in my soul.

Today I can tell you this: Mission Accomplished. Through all of the challenges physically, mentally, and spiritually, I did not know that I would ever see the sun rise. It was like a long night that seemed to go on forever. As I leaned into the pain, the confusion, and the unknown, I learned to walk with grace through every moment.

The woman, the executive, the daughter, and the mother that entered 2014 had been re-shaped, re-molded, and ultimately re-birthed. There were unforeseen circumstances that I certainly did not think I had enough “bandwidth” to get through. In the darkest of moments, even when my faith ran low, I learned to celebrate hope. When my heart was breaking I leaned into hope. When things made no sense and were unjust, I leaned into hope. Through the laughter and the tears, I leaned into hope. I have developed many life tools to successfully navigate through the darkest of days, all of which I will share with you this year on MOTIVATINGOTHERMOTHERS.com, and on the road in cities around the world. The most important constant is HOPE! You will make it through all of your challenges. I just know you will. I believe in you and I have lots of extra hope safely tucked away in my toolbox if you need more! You CAN and you WILL make a stronger YOU. We lose people, we gain people, we lose jobs, we gain jobs; a cacophony of mysterious silk threads make the tapestry we call life. The most important “stitch” is hope.

“Anything you feel is missing can be found. Any needs you may have will be met. There is ultimate and unlimited love and abundance waiting for you.” – AlexSandra Wright

You have to have hope. You have to give hope. You have to embrace help. You have to find hope when you can see no hope. You have to find a way where it seems there is no way. You have to make something out of nothing. What you will find is your omnipotent excellence. In hope you find your dreams, your aspirations, your love, and your victories.

As I embark on this next leg of my journey, I know that I am living in my passion and purpose. I embrace every moment. I am grateful for everyone and everything that appeared in my life that helped me get to this point. Now I am ready to change the world one heart at a time. One love at a time. One hope at a time. Thank you for supporting this movement. May you find hope in every experience that comes to you. May you bring help to everyone that meets your path. May you find forgiveness, light, and love to share with everyone on your journey. I have hope within me and that is why am strong.

Until we meet friend, here is my gift to you.


Knapsack Of Hope

KNAPSACK OF HOPE Remind yourself that everything is already working toward your greatest good. Breathe, lean into your feelings, and hold on to HOPE!


Find each of these items and wrap them in white silk. Tie your knapsack with a matching piece of silk in purple, pink, green, or blue and tuck your precious bundle safely away, yet always close. When hope runs low, close your eyes, hold the knapsack close to your heart and BELIEVE.


One – STAR (gold or other) This will remind you to keep shining.

One – PAPER CLIP to help you hold things together.

One – ERASER to fix all the little mistakes.

One – LOCK to keep all your secrets safe.

One – PENNY so that you are never broke.

One – RUBBER BAND to help you stretch beyond your limits.



#MOMS INSPIRATION Krishtine Ross Unlocks Her Golden Handcuffs. You can too!

I am so honored to bring this next installment of the Golden Handcuff Project to you.  As you know I work with thousands of moms and children around the world. Each person moves me, it is never redundant or a matter of going through the motions.  I come to love and care about each person that reaches out to me and my staff.  To say: “around the world” is a huge statement, however it is completely true.  There are countries I’ve come to wistfully dream of as I open communications with people in places I’ve never been.  I’m proud to say MotivatingOtherMothers.com is changing lives in over 40 countries.  While I absolutely love the global conversation, my company delivers boots-on-the-ground help to hundreds of mothers, parents, and their children each day in Southern California.  I recently had the honor of being there for a woman I’ve always admired and loved tremendously.  She is a good friend, a beacon of light, and a manifestation of everything thats right in the world.  My loving friend was separating from her husband.  She is an incredible mother to two girls and it is my honor to walk this leg of her journey with her.  Special thanks to thebabyspot.ca.  I treasure my partnership with this magazine and I support everything this magazine, embodying  innovation and integrity, represents.  To Krish … I love you.  Thank you for letting me in, trusting me, and letting me help.  This is a wonderful beginning for you  and for your daughters.  I am proud of you and excited to change lives together around the world. S

Enjoy and send us your feedback.  If you’d like to know more about my “7 Steps To Unlock Your Golden Handcuffs” send us an email and share your story.  We are here to help and to join you on your journey.  We are #StrongerTogether

Love and warm wishes,


Posted By thebabyspot.ca on Jan 16, 2015 

Two weeks ago, thebabyspot.ca posted 7 Steps To Unlock Your Golden Handcuffs by Mom and Motivational Influencer Alexsandra Wright.

To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright

To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright 

We are excited to say that one Mother, Motivational Speaker, Krishtine Ross, took this advice and is thriving! She has been kind enough to share her story.

Krishtine was going through a separation with her husband of thirteen years. It was hard for everyone involved and many changes were happening what seemed to be all at once.
Krishtine emphasizes that for a Mother going through a lot of stress, the safest place to be is “in the middle of a leap of faith.”


One day, her coworker who was also a pastor walked through her office. He turned to her before leaving and said, “The safest place to be is in the middle of a leap of faith”. These words resonated with Krishtine for the entire day. She felt that her faith was strong and never in her life had stepped out.


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Krishtine knew her faith was strong but she knew that, especially during this separation, it could use some strengthening. She was a Mom and had to make a new life for herself and her children. She got up from her desk, went into the restroom and surrendered. As a Christian, she asked for God to steer her and asked Him to move her feet and lead her on a new path for her life. It was raw, vulnerable and a life changing moment.


Sometimes, reaching is not about reaching up, but reaching out. Krishtine did just that. She was overwhelmed that the very next weekend, her and her children were moving out of their family home. This could be a hard moment for any parent, but Krishtine was in awe of all of the help she had received from people she claims she had no idea would care. She felt vulnerable, but she stayed quiet, humble and moved slowly, being thankful for every little moment in her journey.


There were struggles. There were hard times. But Krishtine was strong. Our favorite part of this story, she became so strong that her children felt STABLE with her decisions and the big changes that were happening in her life. Krishtine describes this transition within her family as “miraculous.”

Krishtine was overwhelmed by the kindness of friends, family and acquaintances. She was given kind words, a mattress, dishes etc. for her new home. But the greatest gift was to come. Krishtine decided to write down every person’s name who helped her, so one day, she can do something nice for them. She decided for each person who helped her, she would PAY IT FORWARD to another who is in need. Her desire was to become as selfless as possible and unite hands and hearts across the globe to strengthen others experiencing the same things that she has.
With that being said, we want to welcome Krishtine Ross as a Motivational Speaker for Moms, who will contribute to thebabyspot.ca and has given some great advice to Moms everywhere…

How can Mothers stay humble?

There are many experiences that I can share as to what has kept me humble as a mother and how other mothers can stay humble. Hearing the words “Mommy” as our children affectionately call us is very humbling. The voice is endearing, it’s sincere, and it’s expecting a certain accountability. Its honesty, protection and trust. It is security, patience, nurturing and love.
Having a child is a blessing and an opportunity. When I hear the word “Mommy”, it is not only heard but processed and internalized. At that point it becomes humbling. It would be wonderful if my girls knew how many times I take an internal bow every time they call me “Mommy”.
I encourage Mothers everywhere reading this to listen with your “Mommy” ears and allow our children to help in keeping us humble daily.

Any thoughts or insight how a busy Mother can stay grateful and focused?

I believe that mothers can stay grateful and focused by not placing so much on themselves in one day. As mothers, we tend to have a desire to “take care of it all” which allows us to wear many hats. We become the nutritionist, the chauffeur, the hairstylist, the housekeeper, the janitor at times, we have laundry, etc. once I realized that EVERYTHING CAN NOT BE DONE IN ONE DAY, I became focused and I actually had time to pay attention to what was really going on around me ( Hence: I became grateful).
The main objective is to either delegate tasks to your spouse or your children if they are old enough. Everyone should help to some extent. I believe it’s important to select days of the week to complete certain tasks and give yourself a time framed to complete the task. This way there is room to focus and no one becomes overwhelmed. For instance, my laundry was complete on Thursday’s.
Once a busy mother organizes her life and her time, there becomes more than enough room to focus and become grateful for what is.

How did your children adjust after your life change? Any advice for Mothers going through something similar?

My girls adjusted very well when we moved out of one home and into our new home. It’s is important to me that I address it this way because this is what worked for us.
I believe the reason why my girls adjusted so well is because my ex-husband and I were actually sleeping in separate rooms for five years before we actually moved out so they saw and felt then separation before it ever took place. I did this because I wanted my children to have both of their parents under the same roof for as long as they possibly could as dysfunctional as it may sound. At one point, my oldest daughter even told me that she notice her father and I getting along better since being in our own space.

As they days approached that we would downsize from a four bedroom two story home to a two bedroom condo, it was EXTREMELY IMPORTANT to me that my girls room ( they would share the master bedroom) was exactly what they wanted it to be. Each side looking totally different. I wanted it to feel like home to us right away. The day we moved in, I took off of work and I painted their room two different colors as they asked. I ordered their dresser, night stands, bed frames and mattresses. I put the bed frames together that day and had fresh sheets on their mattresses, hangers in their closet, drawers for their clothes, towels for them to shower, new and clean dishes in our cabinets and food in our refrigerator. This way, it felt like home, something they are familiar with.
Outside of these things, I had to make sure that during a time that I felt insure, my girls saw my strength and they felt MOST SECURE and this is what helped in their adjusting also. Them seeing that I did not and had no intentions on cracking under the pressure. I purposely left their bedroom furniture at our other home with their father so when they are there, they do not have a feeling of abandonment.
My security gave them confidence that everything is and will be just fine and that our new home is as safe and secure as the one that we left.
If I could give other mothers out there any advice, it would be not to wait to leave. When you know for sure that you have done all that you can do, be secure in yourself and move forward with your life. Your children are more resilient than you think. I would also encourage mothers to stand strong alone when you must and together when you have support. Children should not bear witness to all of our tears.

Should we challenge Mothers to a pay it forward revolution to spread joy to one another?

I absolutely believe 100% that mothers should pay it forward. It is because of my mother and mothers before me that I am able to stand as a testimony today. You can get through your situation and more importantly, YOU WILL get through it.
As mothers we are a community of our own and we share more than we think. Motherhood is a bond that can never be broken, yet shared for generations on. There have been several times that I have heard a child call “Mom” or “Mommy” and in a flash, I turn around or answer as if it were my own child. We all have. It’s the mother in us that triggers that instinct and I believe that we all share the responsibility. Please pay it forward. Help and support other mothers.
For all of you who would like to reach Krishtine, visit her at marriagedivorcelife.blogspot.com

Author: thebabyspot.ca

New You! #2015 7 Steps To Unlock Your Golden Handcuffs #BeFree

7 Steps To Free Yourself From Golden Handcuffs

To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright

To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright

Motivating Other Mothers


Mom, Motivational speaker, executive, and owner of Motivating Other Mothers, Alexsandra Wright has worked with and continues to work with thousands of mothers, motivating them towards a path of personal success. It was her Mother, however, who introduced her to the term, “Golden Handcuffs”. Her mother explained that many of the things we come to rely on, beauty, money, relationships, or titles, can make us complacent and they easily become a crutch or an excuse for what we’ve come to accept for ourselves.  Alexsandra believes that the “Golden Handcuffs” are a comfortable set of boundaries and habits that keep us from reaching our full potential.

We as individuals, especially as parents, allow ourselves to be handcuffed to things that make us comfortable. Whether it is not eating properly to an unhealthy relationship, it may look nice and “golden” on the outside but it can bring distrust and decay as well as dishonor our spirit.

Alexsandra attests that at one time in her life, she too, was chained with “Golden Handcuffs”. Her executive career was a great one, her personal successes look wonderful to any outsider and financially, she was very comfortable by any standard. These were the achievements she felt defined her but they were LIMITING.

Once she was placed in the spotlight, it added to challenges of standing firm in who she was and compounded the work to move forward positively and with meaning.  She created a seven step program for herself to take off the handcuffs and make herself UNCOMFORTABLE in order to reach her true calling, to help other Mothers.

Here are the seven steps to free you from your GOLDEN HANDCUFFS:

Things you hold onto may be the things holding you back.

Things you hold onto may be the things holding you back.  ~ AlexSandra Wright

IDENTIFY – Identify what are the hindrances in your life that keep you locked into your golden handcuffs. Is it an abusive relationship? A skeleton in your closet? Are there people in your family or social circles that keep you “locked in?” Identify these people and situations. What role do you play in perpetuating your own challenges.  Be true to yourself and clearly understand where the problems lie.

CLARIFY – Understand where you’ve been.  Understand all the circumstances that surround you and your choices. Understand what you want.  Listen to the rhythm of your internal language that has created your current reality. Why are you in this situation? Understand that we have exactly what we want and we have manifested our clearest visions.

UNDERSTAND– What you have already manifested and realize what it is you truly want, without being held down by your golden handcuffs. Is it a job you will actually love without the huge paycheck? Do you want to spend more time with your children and less time with your friends or coworkers? Understand your dreams.

DEFINE-Clearly define challenges, blockages, and dependencies/co-dependencies. Simplify the challenges you may feel are very complicated and write them down.  Create your ritual of release (we write them down and light them on fire, put them in a bottle drop it in the ocean, or use lantern release).  Be easy with yourself.  Letting go is not particularly easy.  Take your time and use your soft inner affirmations to gently guide your spirit to acceptance.

REACH-Create a viable new way to reach your goal that is approached from a complete, 360 degree holistic way. Create new language for yourself (such as positive affirmations. Take out the word “But and Still”).

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COMMIT – Pledge integrity and loyalty to yourself.  Create your plan of action to manifest your new goals. Use one of our tools (#MOM vision boards, #MOM bracelets, #MOM workbooks and journals, #MOM affirmations etc…) or create your own.  Believe in yourself, you are worth the commitment, your children are worth you committing to your own happiness.  Happy parents make happy children.

MANIFEST – Honor how you inherited your golden handcuffs. Recall how you allowed yourself to be handcuff and celebrate that you are now moving forward. Breathe in the freedom.  Each day is a new step.  Celebrate all of you, while you manifest the best new you.  There is no better time to discover your infinite greatness. MOVE WITH PURPOSE

With these seven steps to success, you can unchain yourself from your golden handcuffs and celebrate a life of love, life, happiness and freedom.  You deserve the best. Now it is time for you to begin the journey of the true gift of self.

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Alexsandra does not just teach the 7 Steps out of the Golden Handcuffs, she walks the talk. Check back with us in a few weeks with another wonderful success story of a Mom leaving her Golden Handcuffs behind.  This magnificent mom will be presenting her program “Day Spa For The Spirit” around the globe in 2015-2016.  We will be posting cities, countries, and dates in February 2015.  Make sure to stop by MotivatingOtherMothers.com for sneak peeks and pre-registration.

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Motivating Other Mothers



“I am worthless, I am a horrible Mother, I don’t know how to move on with my kids after my divorce.” These are some of the cries for help that Alexsandra Wright hears every day from Mothers who are desperate for someone, anyone to listen to their story. Alexsandra is a Mother with great passion and dedication to motivating other Mothers. She is an executive with vast experience in PR, branding and strategic marketing (to name a few). Her impressive resume does not only have big named celebrities and business people to attest to her excellent work, but also the voices of over 2000 Mothers and children in 2014 alone, thanking Alexsandra for anything from finding them a home to getting their Mother a new career. This is a woman who knows how to give back to people who need it the most. How can she handle such a large, diverse cliental? Her empire, her movement, Motivating Other Mothers, is dedicated to changing the way Mothers see themselves.


Transcending To Grace

Alexsandra knows the fear of a Mother’s desperation all too well. When she had given birth to Nixon, her handsome little boy, there was a controversy. Alexsandra had a long term relationship with a high profiled celebrity who was, at the time, married. Though Alexsandra takes accountability for her part in this, when she gave birth to little Nixon, something changed.
When Nixon was born, Alexsandra, “transcended anything human. I understood what love and responsibility was. This gift of this little human being to me is something that I am so grateful for every day. He (Nixon) is a better person than me, he is smarter than me, he brought healing to me and my entire family. He was delivered to me, perfect.”

Alexsandra remembers after bringing little Nixon home for the first time that “Golden Slumbers” a series of lullabies by Dave Koz was playing. A soft jazz version of “Isn’t She (and he) Lovely was playing and she held her little boy in her arms and began to weep tears of joy. She was humbled. She was overwhelmed. She felt so much gratitude. She had transcended. Little Nixon will be loved and protected. He will get a chance to grow and be nurtured in peace. Every Mother, like Alexsandra, has one moment where everything in the world is secondary to the gift that is their child.

Anchoring In Muddy Waters


With a little baby, Alexsandra had gone for public assistance. She had very little. She sat in the classroom that was mandated to learn how to construct a resume. In the classroom of the frustrated and unemployed, she realized something. The facilitator of this mandatory class for those on public assistance was extremely motivated to help. The class full of those who required the assistance, were not. Many of them were single Mothers. They made the facilitators job a difficult one, but Alexsandra sensed the frustration of the Mothers and worse, she saw the facilitator lose her hope in helping these people get on their feet again. Alexsandra knew that she could help these Mothers. That, in her state of loss, she wanted to help others who felt like they had nothing. She packed up anything in her house that she was not using, old clothes of her own and some that her son had out grew and started giving away her things to these Mothers. One Mother in particular, struck a chord with Alexsandra. A twenty year old single Mother had a four year old child and was getting a divorce. She loved fashion but had no formal education. This young Mom had convinced herself that she would not amount to anything. It dawned on Alexsandra that this young girl would be a great product ambassador. Astonished, the young girl applied and got a job. She got off public assistance. If Alexsandra could inspire one Mother to reach her full potential and get off public assistance, why not more? Why not all of them?


Instead of fearing this difficult time of poverty and loss, she decided to firmly plant her feet into it. She created Motivating Other Mothers, a website dedicated to helping Moms with all problems by teaching Moms to motivate each other. She started working at the DA’s office and went back to her previous career in branding. However, her passion is families. She can only remember the peace she felt holding little Nixon that first night with that sweet lullaby playing in her head. She had her purpose. She had a voice, then it was time to fly.

I became a mother and lost a mother in one year

With great sadness, Alexsandra was blessed with Motherhood and had her own Mother had passed away. Thankfully, Alexsandra’s Mother had gotten to see her little baby Nixon, but time is short. Alexsandra’s family is a great one and the glue that held it all together was her Mother. Alexsandra had such a good Mother she had planted a seed of strength in Alexsandra and now Alex takes this power and wants to harvest it with not only her precious son, but Mothers everywhere.
Cradling the Seed

“I am present for each part, every victory or defeat, I was seeing everyone around me and I poured love, energy, passion and learning into other people, especially mothers and children.”

Alexsandra continued helping everyone who wanted it, from her celebrity Mother friends right down to a Mother she would meet on the street. She took her vast knowledge of branding and her love of social interaction and combined it with her passion, helping others. As she moved forward, she attests that we should all give back to those in need. To Alexsandra, that is the seed of true success “Move Forward, give back.”

Surface Blossom

“I am the proactive catalyst to change our existence and this defines me.”


Why are there so many women who are afraid to use their voice? Alexsandra puts it simply, “Not to victimize women, but women take a beating at every turn. The woman who works two to three jobs to keep her single parent family afloat hardly has time to spend quality time with her child.” The woman on assistance has put her children in a home where they will have to struggle for the necessities. These two situations can feel like there is nowhere to turn. Alexsandra has been there and she knows how to help.
Many women are programmed to shun confrontation and controversy. They will go out of their way to avoid it. Alexsandra attests. Even if that means not fighting for their deserved child support. It’s hard for these women to bond together because

“When you put two or three broken people together who lack faith in humanity they cannot be bonded together. It’s so hard to find value in what our life has become and stay sane.”

Rise from the Roots


Alexsandra wants to make Mothers into Spiritual Gangsters. What does that mean? For every scary, controversial thing that happens to a Mother, whether it be a divorce, a job loss, the hardships of raising children, unexpected life turns, instead of hiding, denying or collapsing into yourself, Alexsandra challenges each of you to “show up and have the gut strength to walk into the fire. You will get bumps and bruises but like a phoenix you will rise from the ashes. That is a Spiritual Gangster.”
Alexsandra is a driving force to be a beacon for the Mother who never fit in, for the Mother who does not know how to stand on her own two feet after a divorce, for the little child who deserves MORE. She will walk each painful step with you and help you join a community that cares. Motivating Other Mothers  is your light when there is darkness. Narrate your new survival story with Alexsandra, plant yourself in muddy waters and blossom.

Alexsandra is an executive, a motivator, a beacon for thousands of women already, but at the end of it all, when the day has ended, she is, most of all, a woman that consciously and wholeheartedly loves her son, and her selfless and dedicated work is testimony of that love. Join her on this game changing journey and begin the path of MOTIVATION.

Author: thebabyspotca

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M.O.M Snapshot: Mommy Necklace Celebrating All #Moms

M.O.M Snapshot: Mommy Necklace

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In 2009 I learned I having Nixon. I was truly one of the most magical moments of my life. I was 38 and having my first child! The same year, the exact same time, I learned my mother was dying. Nixon’s due date was projected to be February 7, 2010…my Mother’s birthday.

2010 would prove to be a year to never forget. Nixon was born…my Mother passed away. I love them both unconditionally and eternally.

I decided to commemorate the wonder and beauty of my journey by creating my own “mommy” necklace. It stands for everything associated with the honor of being a mother. It stands for the process of gaining and loosing everything simultaneously. It stands for EVERYONE who loves a child and changes the world with her love. It stands for everything I hold precious. Love. Life . Laughter. Motherhood gives my each of these every day. 

I chose lower case letters to symbolize humility. I chose cursive script to symbolize the connection and every evolving journey. I chose diamonds and gold to symbolize a solid foundation, ever lasting love, and of course, to symbolize that becoming a mother makes you even more fabulous than ever! 

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Warrior #Mom Bentley Hale ~ November Spotlight

Bentley Hale-Sip Happens photo

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Taking time to celebrate and give gratitude for all the victories in life, I am always aware that we do not gain victories alone. The best journeys and results come when teamwork is involved. Whether it is friends, family, co-workers, or even strangers… we are always stronger working in harmony with others.

So many wonderful people support my efforts to help other mothers and families, that each month, #Moms Motivating Other Mothers, will highlight one spectacular MOM who is making a difference and one family owned business or charity making significant effort with in our communities.

Our MOM for November is Bentley Hale. Through my work with Safe Passage, a spectacular non-profit in California helping mothers and children out of dangerous domestic violence situations, I met Ms. Hale.

Ms. Hale, of Elevate Women Events, was single handedly heading up the enormous task of filling the CBS Backlot with a fun filled event to benefit Safe Passage and the Grossman Burn Foundation. One woman … with a softly curving belly was running the show! I immediately recognized her spirit and was amazed by her level of compassion and understanding. I was proud to meet this young, beautiful bombshell with a heart the size of the Empire State building and vision not only far beyond her years, but also far beyond living for herself. Ms. Hale possesses so many good qualities that it is a challenge to nail down just a few. It is an honor to know her.

“Elevate! Events are planned to help raise funds and awareness for various women’s charities while creating a fun and exciting atmosphere for people to come together to help support a cause. The charities we support advocate for the human rights of women and girls, and seek to empower women both globally and nationally. Proceeds from our events benefit various women’s charities we partner with.” Bentley Hale ~ Elevate! Women

Ms. Hale is expecting her first child, a daughter, in January and is recently married. Marriage gave her a blended family and she flowed gracefully into being a stand out mom.

Ms. Hale has helped so many other women and charities realize milestones that is was a cinch to say yes when she asked me to be a guest at her next event. Elevate! Women and Elevate Retreats are proud to offer its first Pregnancy and Mommy Retreat in Big Bear, California, November 14-16, 2014. Saturday night, November 15, 2014 I will be hosting the “Campfire Life Coach” event. I built a special program for this fun fireside chat. I will focus on how to push through your challenges and manifest your dreams … with a little one in tow. No matter what the press says, I never stopped dreaming, manifesting, or working. It is what has enabled my business to flourish and it has enabled me to give back to you!

Campfire Renew, Inspire & Elevate Workshop For #Moms

Indentifying challenges, fears, hopes, and dreams.

Clearing the path to our core.

Acknowledging our challenges or goals.

Confirming our intention through positive affirmations and specialized exercises.

Creating tools to manifest positive outcomes and schedule of milestones.

I am truly an honored guest, and consider myself in the company of greatness. Cheers to you Bentley Hale as Warrior MOM of the month! You change lives everyday and we salute you!


You Already Have It All

Already Have

Motivation. It’s the perfect place to begin to manifest all your dreams. Before you begin your next perfect moment, I want you to understand that you already have it all! Right now … In this moment.

Sometimes it seems as though we “lose” something everyday. I lose my car keys and my iPhone a thousand times a day. Nixon looks at me, swoops a dramatic palm to his forehead and says, “Mommmyyyyyyyyyyy, where is your phone?” I feel frantic for a moment, mostly because I’m running late, and tearing through everything surrounding me. Cursing and blaming everyone and every thing I can think of. ANYONE! To jump to the end of the daily ridiculous shenanigans, I remember this small moment is a metaphor for living. The keys are in my bag, every time. Well, unless I’ve left them in the car. Hey, judge not friend, I remembered the kid and the dog.

My frazzled and accelerated life helps me to remember not to panic. An oxymoron I know. Here’s the thing. I have keys to my home. I have keys to my car. I have my son. We both have our sense of humor and our health. I have an incredible family and an electric existence. We have each other. I haven’t lost a thing. I already have it all.

When I decided to open my life to you, it was after 4 years of silence and judgment on a global scale. If you have ever chatted with me, you know that I always say, “Meh, I’m too stupid to be afraid, thats why I can always rise from any situation.” That’s only partly true. It’s true … I rise. It’s false that I’m not afraid. I feel fear all the time. If I didn’t feel my fear, I wouldn’t know how to be fearless. I choose to move without fear. Fear hinders the greatness that is already within me and within you. I will never stand down to fear. I will always choose hope.

I pushed through the ridicule, the pain, the betrayal, the loss of friends, family, and my comfortable identity. I challenged myself to tell my truth and to open my heart to the love that already existed but I was not choosing to recognize. I chose resilience. I chose love. I chose to be with you! I discovered what I had “lost” never really “was”, and I was inspired to acknowledge the abundance that exists in my life. I already have it all.

Friend, while we critique ourselves every day and find fault with everything about ourselves, we must realize that we are right where we are supposed to be and everything we need to fulfill our destiny is already within us. Pushing through the fear, I choose love over bitterness and despair. Being harsh or hyper-critical on oneself, creates inner anguish. We then communicate from a painful place. No need to do that to yourself. Change the paradigm and your inner dialogue to one of love.

To write about myself publicly or to connect with people around the world was terrifying. Yet, there you were. You greeted me with open hearts, open minds, and boundless love. You exist. You carry me through each day. I had to let go and open my heart, face my fear and stop believing there was something wrong with me. There is nothing wrong with me, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. I challenge you to look at yourself honestly and lovingly. See yourself the way I see you. See the perfect human YOU. The YOU that the universe sees. Love your self the way the universe loves you. Compassionately and infinitely. Constantly renewed. Constantly forgiving.

We want MORE. We want BETTER. We want THINGS. We want MONEY. We want LOVE. We want to be accepted, simply for the loving being we are. We already have what we need for a perfect life. Once you understand and embrace that, you will see the complete and perfect you I see. You will manifest infinitely as, you are living in the present with purity of intention and honesty. You will know to give more than you take. You’ll be surprised to all the ways love shows up. You’ll be surprised how quickly that love turns to opportunity for change. You’ll be surprised how quickly your shift in perspective allows you to access an infinite pool of resources to live your authentic, fulfilled life, and assist your dream quest. If self-improvement means there is something wrong with you, then take a deep breath and let the essence of your perfect being love your insecure self. You already have it all.

I’ve met so many wonderful people around the world that encourage me every day. People that understand loving me, means my child’s life is better, and they can then send me as a warrior for them into the world to affect change. One person I met was a bit nervous about sharing a picture of his or herself in self-realized fear that I may judge it to be ugly. Never. I receive all of the love you are generous enough to share and I see each person for whom they show up to be. Sending kind words, love, encouragement, and making an effort to support others, makes you nothing short of beautiful!

Open your heart to the love that exists, and see yourself as the complete, beautiful, loved, and perfectly flawed being you are. You cannot think your way through life or think your way through a situation. You must LIVE your way through life. What ever challenges come your way, know that you already have all the resources and support to get through it.

Step into your authentic self. Step into your excellence. Step into the love that is waiting for you. I am proud of you. I support you. I am here when you need me. Thank you for giving me the same. I receive all with open arms and return it with unconditional love. You already have it all!

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