Reboot your #Spirit, #Motivate with Control. Alt. Delete

About a year ago, my first article published was called Control.  Alt.  Delete.  Reboot Your Spirit.  The “hard re-boot” of my internal motherboard was extremely hard and dauntingly scary.  However, it was the best thing I could’ve done.  Through my honesty and willingness to accept myself as less than perfect, using humor and my three-step action plan, I freed myself to live, dream, and hope again.  There are still many frustrating days when I find myself slipping back into old habits and self defeating behaviors.  It happens to the best of us, all the time.  The best thing to do, is refer to a simple action plan with easy steps to remember.  As always, I share my steps with many publications and life coaching clients, thebabyspot.ca being one of the most near and dear to my heart.  Ever authentic, thebabyspot.ca, the Editor in Chief, and her staff, have supported me and lifted me many times…even when I couldn’t find my own voice.  Each day I remember to be grateful for at least three things, my son, my journey, and your support from around the globe.  Thank you.  Each one of you.  You enrich my life and motivate me everyday.  Thank you for all the notes and emails.  Many bring tears to my eyes. I know you’re out there.  Try to remember to enjoy your journey.  Believe that everything ALWAYS works toward the greatest good.  On tough days remember you can always change the way you experience the events in your life. Control.  Alt.  Delete. Reboot your spirit, find humor, and give love.
Lovingly,
Alex

Control, Alt. Delete

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Alexsandra Wright

As mothers and fathers, we find ourselves rolling our “tape” when we are around others. From the work setting to social gatherings, we roll a tape of what we are about and the points that we want to get across to the person listening to us. Many times, our “tape” is embellished to drive a point that we are “nice people, powerful people or respected people.” We do this because we want the listener to gage similar feelings about us. When we roll our tape, we are solidifying that our character, whether real or exaggerated, is presented in the best light to illicit whatever validation we need.   However, once the meeting is over, we have allowed a listener to think something about us that perhaps is not true and we slowly chip away at not only our moral compass, but our character.

Alexsandra Wright has a great three step method to stop this. Like a computer, we have to control, alt and delete.

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The answer to being  comfortable in our truth is simple. We have to stop our tape. However, it is the procedure that is hard. Many of us can’t stop rolling out the points we want others to know. Alexsandra asserts that the first step is to CONTROL our words and thoughts.

“Stopping our tape requires us to really listen to what we are saying. Every word. We must take notice which words we use to soothe or validate ourselves, our actions, our feeling and ultimately, our existence.”

Do you find yourself name dropping? Do you want the listener to know about your powerful job or how you are a much stronger person then you really are? Why do you want them to know these things, especially if it just to get a reaction to make you feel good about yourself, garner sympathy, and position yourself as more powerful than another person?  Control yourself from falsely validating.

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Alexsandra’s second step is to Alter your words, thoughts and feelings. She suggests to give yourself some time, whether alone or in a social setting to BE STILL. Think of the words you use to validate yourself. These words will “tingle” a bit according to Alexsandra. Like a slight burn, you know that these words do not feel good and it’s time to give some focus to the problem area. Alexsandra wants you to notice that you are trying to convince someone of something. That someone is not the listener, it’s YOU. Stop right there! Take a deep breath. Instead of saying something in that moment… examine YOUR moment.

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Okay readers, it’s time to purge. Yes, those uncomfortable moments according to Alexsandra are the ones that make us feel that we need to be our biggest and best self. However, seize the opportunity to be your AUTHENTIC self. Say nothing. Be in your moment. Most of all, LET GO of who you think you NEED TO BE and become WHO YOU ARE.

Are you being your authentic self? Leave your story in the comments section below!

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Hold On To Hope

As we say goodbye to what was 2014, the word that resonates within my spirit is HOPE.

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There are many keys to opening up a new future, to saying goodbye to the past, and to inventing a brand-new you. Each moment has its own significance, but the most significant ingredient of all is hope. Throughout the year, we go through so many changes, so many versions of ourselves, both good and bad. The foundation of change and growth is hope. Hope for a new day, hope to heal the sick, hope for a new job, hope for new breakthroughs, hope for love, and hope for change.

I really had no idea that I would achieve as much as I did in 2014. Looking back, it was not just overcoming obvious challenges; it was overcoming the challenge of ego, humility, acceptance, and abandonment, while practicing the ultimate strength through adversity. It was a year of accepting many things that I could not control and ultimately realizing that all I could control were my reactions. This propelled me to stay positive through all the surreal twists and turns and delivered me safely to 2015.  My resume and my life had once again exploded.  This time exponentially, with the mark of “service-to-others” deeply ingrained with permanent ink and emblazoned in my soul.

Today I can tell you this: Mission Accomplished. Through all of the challenges physically, mentally, and spiritually, I did not know that I would ever see the sun rise. It was like a long night that seemed to go on forever. As I leaned into the pain, the confusion, and the unknown, I learned to walk with grace through every moment.

The woman, the executive, the daughter, and the mother that entered 2014 had been re-shaped, re-molded, and ultimately re-birthed. There were unforeseen circumstances that I certainly did not think I had enough “bandwidth” to get through. In the darkest of moments, even when my faith ran low, I learned to celebrate hope. When my heart was breaking I leaned into hope. When things made no sense and were unjust, I leaned into hope. Through the laughter and the tears, I leaned into hope. I have developed many life tools to successfully navigate through the darkest of days, all of which I will share with you this year on MOTIVATINGOTHERMOTHERS.com, and on the road in cities around the world. The most important constant is HOPE! You will make it through all of your challenges. I just know you will. I believe in you and I have lots of extra hope safely tucked away in my toolbox if you need more! You CAN and you WILL make a stronger YOU. We lose people, we gain people, we lose jobs, we gain jobs; a cacophony of mysterious silk threads make the tapestry we call life. The most important “stitch” is hope.

“Anything you feel is missing can be found. Any needs you may have will be met. There is ultimate and unlimited love and abundance waiting for you.” – AlexSandra Wright

You have to have hope. You have to give hope. You have to embrace help. You have to find hope when you can see no hope. You have to find a way where it seems there is no way. You have to make something out of nothing. What you will find is your omnipotent excellence. In hope you find your dreams, your aspirations, your love, and your victories.

As I embark on this next leg of my journey, I know that I am living in my passion and purpose. I embrace every moment. I am grateful for everyone and everything that appeared in my life that helped me get to this point. Now I am ready to change the world one heart at a time. One love at a time. One hope at a time. Thank you for supporting this movement. May you find hope in every experience that comes to you. May you bring help to everyone that meets your path. May you find forgiveness, light, and love to share with everyone on your journey. I have hope within me and that is why am strong.

Until we meet friend, here is my gift to you.

 KNAPSACK OF HOPE: 

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KNAPSACK OF HOPE Remind yourself that everything is already working toward your greatest good. Breathe, lean into your feelings, and hold on to HOPE!

  DIRECTIONS:

Find each of these items and wrap them in white silk. Tie your knapsack with a matching piece of silk in purple, pink, green, or blue and tuck your precious bundle safely away, yet always close. When hope runs low, close your eyes, hold the knapsack close to your heart and BELIEVE.

TOOLS FOR YOUR JOURNEY:

One – STAR (gold or other) This will remind you to keep shining.

One – PAPER CLIP to help you hold things together.

One – ERASER to fix all the little mistakes.

One – LOCK to keep all your secrets safe.

One – PENNY so that you are never broke.

One – RUBBER BAND to help you stretch beyond your limits.

 

 

#MOMS INSPIRATION Krishtine Ross Unlocks Her Golden Handcuffs. You can too!

I am so honored to bring this next installment of the Golden Handcuff Project to you.  As you know I work with thousands of moms and children around the world. Each person moves me, it is never redundant or a matter of going through the motions.  I come to love and care about each person that reaches out to me and my staff.  To say: “around the world” is a huge statement, however it is completely true.  There are countries I’ve come to wistfully dream of as I open communications with people in places I’ve never been.  I’m proud to say MotivatingOtherMothers.com is changing lives in over 40 countries.  While I absolutely love the global conversation, my company delivers boots-on-the-ground help to hundreds of mothers, parents, and their children each day in Southern California.  I recently had the honor of being there for a woman I’ve always admired and loved tremendously.  She is a good friend, a beacon of light, and a manifestation of everything thats right in the world.  My loving friend was separating from her husband.  She is an incredible mother to two girls and it is my honor to walk this leg of her journey with her.  Special thanks to thebabyspot.ca.  I treasure my partnership with this magazine and I support everything this magazine, embodying  innovation and integrity, represents.  To Krish … I love you.  Thank you for letting me in, trusting me, and letting me help.  This is a wonderful beginning for you  and for your daughters.  I am proud of you and excited to change lives together around the world. S

Enjoy and send us your feedback.  If you’d like to know more about my “7 Steps To Unlock Your Golden Handcuffs” send us an email and share your story.  We are here to help and to join you on your journey.  We are #StrongerTogether

Love and warm wishes,

AlexSandra

Posted By thebabyspot.ca on Jan 16, 2015 

Two weeks ago, thebabyspot.ca posted 7 Steps To Unlock Your Golden Handcuffs by Mom and Motivational Influencer Alexsandra Wright.
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To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright

To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright 

We are excited to say that one Mother, Motivational Speaker, Krishtine Ross, took this advice and is thriving! She has been kind enough to share her story.

IDENTIFY
Krishtine was going through a separation with her husband of thirteen years. It was hard for everyone involved and many changes were happening what seemed to be all at once.
Krishtine emphasizes that for a Mother going through a lot of stress, the safest place to be is “in the middle of a leap of faith.”

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One day, her coworker who was also a pastor walked through her office. He turned to her before leaving and said, “The safest place to be is in the middle of a leap of faith”. These words resonated with Krishtine for the entire day. She felt that her faith was strong and never in her life had stepped out.

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Krishtine knew her faith was strong but she knew that, especially during this separation, it could use some strengthening. She was a Mom and had to make a new life for herself and her children. She got up from her desk, went into the restroom and surrendered. As a Christian, she asked for God to steer her and asked Him to move her feet and lead her on a new path for her life. It was raw, vulnerable and a life changing moment.

REACH

Sometimes, reaching is not about reaching up, but reaching out. Krishtine did just that. She was overwhelmed that the very next weekend, her and her children were moving out of their family home. This could be a hard moment for any parent, but Krishtine was in awe of all of the help she had received from people she claims she had no idea would care. She felt vulnerable, but she stayed quiet, humble and moved slowly, being thankful for every little moment in her journey.

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There were struggles. There were hard times. But Krishtine was strong. Our favorite part of this story, she became so strong that her children felt STABLE with her decisions and the big changes that were happening in her life. Krishtine describes this transition within her family as “miraculous.”

Krishtine was overwhelmed by the kindness of friends, family and acquaintances. She was given kind words, a mattress, dishes etc. for her new home. But the greatest gift was to come. Krishtine decided to write down every person’s name who helped her, so one day, she can do something nice for them. She decided for each person who helped her, she would PAY IT FORWARD to another who is in need. Her desire was to become as selfless as possible and unite hands and hearts across the globe to strengthen others experiencing the same things that she has.
With that being said, we want to welcome Krishtine Ross as a Motivational Speaker for Moms, who will contribute to thebabyspot.ca and has given some great advice to Moms everywhere…

How can Mothers stay humble?

There are many experiences that I can share as to what has kept me humble as a mother and how other mothers can stay humble. Hearing the words “Mommy” as our children affectionately call us is very humbling. The voice is endearing, it’s sincere, and it’s expecting a certain accountability. Its honesty, protection and trust. It is security, patience, nurturing and love.
Having a child is a blessing and an opportunity. When I hear the word “Mommy”, it is not only heard but processed and internalized. At that point it becomes humbling. It would be wonderful if my girls knew how many times I take an internal bow every time they call me “Mommy”.
I encourage Mothers everywhere reading this to listen with your “Mommy” ears and allow our children to help in keeping us humble daily.

Any thoughts or insight how a busy Mother can stay grateful and focused?

I believe that mothers can stay grateful and focused by not placing so much on themselves in one day. As mothers, we tend to have a desire to “take care of it all” which allows us to wear many hats. We become the nutritionist, the chauffeur, the hairstylist, the housekeeper, the janitor at times, we have laundry, etc. once I realized that EVERYTHING CAN NOT BE DONE IN ONE DAY, I became focused and I actually had time to pay attention to what was really going on around me ( Hence: I became grateful).
The main objective is to either delegate tasks to your spouse or your children if they are old enough. Everyone should help to some extent. I believe it’s important to select days of the week to complete certain tasks and give yourself a time framed to complete the task. This way there is room to focus and no one becomes overwhelmed. For instance, my laundry was complete on Thursday’s.
Once a busy mother organizes her life and her time, there becomes more than enough room to focus and become grateful for what is.

How did your children adjust after your life change? Any advice for Mothers going through something similar?

My girls adjusted very well when we moved out of one home and into our new home. It’s is important to me that I address it this way because this is what worked for us.
I believe the reason why my girls adjusted so well is because my ex-husband and I were actually sleeping in separate rooms for five years before we actually moved out so they saw and felt then separation before it ever took place. I did this because I wanted my children to have both of their parents under the same roof for as long as they possibly could as dysfunctional as it may sound. At one point, my oldest daughter even told me that she notice her father and I getting along better since being in our own space.

As they days approached that we would downsize from a four bedroom two story home to a two bedroom condo, it was EXTREMELY IMPORTANT to me that my girls room ( they would share the master bedroom) was exactly what they wanted it to be. Each side looking totally different. I wanted it to feel like home to us right away. The day we moved in, I took off of work and I painted their room two different colors as they asked. I ordered their dresser, night stands, bed frames and mattresses. I put the bed frames together that day and had fresh sheets on their mattresses, hangers in their closet, drawers for their clothes, towels for them to shower, new and clean dishes in our cabinets and food in our refrigerator. This way, it felt like home, something they are familiar with.
Outside of these things, I had to make sure that during a time that I felt insure, my girls saw my strength and they felt MOST SECURE and this is what helped in their adjusting also. Them seeing that I did not and had no intentions on cracking under the pressure. I purposely left their bedroom furniture at our other home with their father so when they are there, they do not have a feeling of abandonment.
My security gave them confidence that everything is and will be just fine and that our new home is as safe and secure as the one that we left.
If I could give other mothers out there any advice, it would be not to wait to leave. When you know for sure that you have done all that you can do, be secure in yourself and move forward with your life. Your children are more resilient than you think. I would also encourage mothers to stand strong alone when you must and together when you have support. Children should not bear witness to all of our tears.

Should we challenge Mothers to a pay it forward revolution to spread joy to one another?

I absolutely believe 100% that mothers should pay it forward. It is because of my mother and mothers before me that I am able to stand as a testimony today. You can get through your situation and more importantly, YOU WILL get through it.
As mothers we are a community of our own and we share more than we think. Motherhood is a bond that can never be broken, yet shared for generations on. There have been several times that I have heard a child call “Mom” or “Mommy” and in a flash, I turn around or answer as if it were my own child. We all have. It’s the mother in us that triggers that instinct and I believe that we all share the responsibility. Please pay it forward. Help and support other mothers.
For all of you who would like to reach Krishtine, visit her at marriagedivorcelife.blogspot.com

Author: thebabyspot.ca

New You! #2015 7 Steps To Unlock Your Golden Handcuffs #BeFree

7 Steps To Free Yourself From Golden Handcuffs

To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright

To Move Forward Give Back #Alexsandra Wright

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Mom, Motivational speaker, executive, and owner of Motivating Other Mothers, Alexsandra Wright has worked with and continues to work with thousands of mothers, motivating them towards a path of personal success. It was her Mother, however, who introduced her to the term, “Golden Handcuffs”. Her mother explained that many of the things we come to rely on, beauty, money, relationships, or titles, can make us complacent and they easily become a crutch or an excuse for what we’ve come to accept for ourselves.  Alexsandra believes that the “Golden Handcuffs” are a comfortable set of boundaries and habits that keep us from reaching our full potential.

We as individuals, especially as parents, allow ourselves to be handcuffed to things that make us comfortable. Whether it is not eating properly to an unhealthy relationship, it may look nice and “golden” on the outside but it can bring distrust and decay as well as dishonor our spirit.

Alexsandra attests that at one time in her life, she too, was chained with “Golden Handcuffs”. Her executive career was a great one, her personal successes look wonderful to any outsider and financially, she was very comfortable by any standard. These were the achievements she felt defined her but they were LIMITING.

Once she was placed in the spotlight, it added to challenges of standing firm in who she was and compounded the work to move forward positively and with meaning.  She created a seven step program for herself to take off the handcuffs and make herself UNCOMFORTABLE in order to reach her true calling, to help other Mothers.

Here are the seven steps to free you from your GOLDEN HANDCUFFS:

Things you hold onto may be the things holding you back.

Things you hold onto may be the things holding you back.  ~ AlexSandra Wright

IDENTIFY – Identify what are the hindrances in your life that keep you locked into your golden handcuffs. Is it an abusive relationship? A skeleton in your closet? Are there people in your family or social circles that keep you “locked in?” Identify these people and situations. What role do you play in perpetuating your own challenges.  Be true to yourself and clearly understand where the problems lie.

CLARIFY – Understand where you’ve been.  Understand all the circumstances that surround you and your choices. Understand what you want.  Listen to the rhythm of your internal language that has created your current reality. Why are you in this situation? Understand that we have exactly what we want and we have manifested our clearest visions.

UNDERSTAND– What you have already manifested and realize what it is you truly want, without being held down by your golden handcuffs. Is it a job you will actually love without the huge paycheck? Do you want to spend more time with your children and less time with your friends or coworkers? Understand your dreams.

DEFINE-Clearly define challenges, blockages, and dependencies/co-dependencies. Simplify the challenges you may feel are very complicated and write them down.  Create your ritual of release (we write them down and light them on fire, put them in a bottle drop it in the ocean, or use lantern release).  Be easy with yourself.  Letting go is not particularly easy.  Take your time and use your soft inner affirmations to gently guide your spirit to acceptance.

REACH-Create a viable new way to reach your goal that is approached from a complete, 360 degree holistic way. Create new language for yourself (such as positive affirmations. Take out the word “But and Still”).

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COMMIT – Pledge integrity and loyalty to yourself.  Create your plan of action to manifest your new goals. Use one of our tools (#MOM vision boards, #MOM bracelets, #MOM workbooks and journals, #MOM affirmations etc…) or create your own.  Believe in yourself, you are worth the commitment, your children are worth you committing to your own happiness.  Happy parents make happy children.

MANIFEST – Honor how you inherited your golden handcuffs. Recall how you allowed yourself to be handcuff and celebrate that you are now moving forward. Breathe in the freedom.  Each day is a new step.  Celebrate all of you, while you manifest the best new you.  There is no better time to discover your infinite greatness. MOVE WITH PURPOSE

With these seven steps to success, you can unchain yourself from your golden handcuffs and celebrate a life of love, life, happiness and freedom.  You deserve the best. Now it is time for you to begin the journey of the true gift of self.

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Alexsandra does not just teach the 7 Steps out of the Golden Handcuffs, she walks the talk. Check back with us in a few weeks with another wonderful success story of a Mom leaving her Golden Handcuffs behind.  This magnificent mom will be presenting her program “Day Spa For The Spirit” around the globe in 2015-2016.  We will be posting cities, countries, and dates in February 2015.  Make sure to stop by MotivatingOtherMothers.com for sneak peeks and pre-registration.

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#AlexSandra #Christmas Spotlight Motivating Other Mothers

Motivating Other Mothers

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“I am worthless, I am a horrible Mother, I don’t know how to move on with my kids after my divorce.” These are some of the cries for help that Alexsandra Wright hears every day from Mothers who are desperate for someone, anyone to listen to their story. Alexsandra is a Mother with great passion and dedication to motivating other Mothers. She is an executive with vast experience in PR, branding and strategic marketing (to name a few). Her impressive resume does not only have big named celebrities and business people to attest to her excellent work, but also the voices of over 2000 Mothers and children in 2014 alone, thanking Alexsandra for anything from finding them a home to getting their Mother a new career. This is a woman who knows how to give back to people who need it the most. How can she handle such a large, diverse cliental? Her empire, her movement, Motivating Other Mothers, is dedicated to changing the way Mothers see themselves.

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Transcending To Grace

Alexsandra knows the fear of a Mother’s desperation all too well. When she had given birth to Nixon, her handsome little boy, there was a controversy. Alexsandra had a long term relationship with a high profiled celebrity who was, at the time, married. Though Alexsandra takes accountability for her part in this, when she gave birth to little Nixon, something changed.
When Nixon was born, Alexsandra, “transcended anything human. I understood what love and responsibility was. This gift of this little human being to me is something that I am so grateful for every day. He (Nixon) is a better person than me, he is smarter than me, he brought healing to me and my entire family. He was delivered to me, perfect.”

Alexsandra remembers after bringing little Nixon home for the first time that “Golden Slumbers” a series of lullabies by Dave Koz was playing. A soft jazz version of “Isn’t She (and he) Lovely was playing and she held her little boy in her arms and began to weep tears of joy. She was humbled. She was overwhelmed. She felt so much gratitude. She had transcended. Little Nixon will be loved and protected. He will get a chance to grow and be nurtured in peace. Every Mother, like Alexsandra, has one moment where everything in the world is secondary to the gift that is their child.

Anchoring In Muddy Waters

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With a little baby, Alexsandra had gone for public assistance. She had very little. She sat in the classroom that was mandated to learn how to construct a resume. In the classroom of the frustrated and unemployed, she realized something. The facilitator of this mandatory class for those on public assistance was extremely motivated to help. The class full of those who required the assistance, were not. Many of them were single Mothers. They made the facilitators job a difficult one, but Alexsandra sensed the frustration of the Mothers and worse, she saw the facilitator lose her hope in helping these people get on their feet again. Alexsandra knew that she could help these Mothers. That, in her state of loss, she wanted to help others who felt like they had nothing. She packed up anything in her house that she was not using, old clothes of her own and some that her son had out grew and started giving away her things to these Mothers. One Mother in particular, struck a chord with Alexsandra. A twenty year old single Mother had a four year old child and was getting a divorce. She loved fashion but had no formal education. This young Mom had convinced herself that she would not amount to anything. It dawned on Alexsandra that this young girl would be a great product ambassador. Astonished, the young girl applied and got a job. She got off public assistance. If Alexsandra could inspire one Mother to reach her full potential and get off public assistance, why not more? Why not all of them?

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Instead of fearing this difficult time of poverty and loss, she decided to firmly plant her feet into it. She created Motivating Other Mothers, a website dedicated to helping Moms with all problems by teaching Moms to motivate each other. She started working at the DA’s office and went back to her previous career in branding. However, her passion is families. She can only remember the peace she felt holding little Nixon that first night with that sweet lullaby playing in her head. She had her purpose. She had a voice, then it was time to fly.

I became a mother and lost a mother in one year

With great sadness, Alexsandra was blessed with Motherhood and had her own Mother had passed away. Thankfully, Alexsandra’s Mother had gotten to see her little baby Nixon, but time is short. Alexsandra’s family is a great one and the glue that held it all together was her Mother. Alexsandra had such a good Mother she had planted a seed of strength in Alexsandra and now Alex takes this power and wants to harvest it with not only her precious son, but Mothers everywhere.
Cradling the Seed

“I am present for each part, every victory or defeat, I was seeing everyone around me and I poured love, energy, passion and learning into other people, especially mothers and children.”

Alexsandra continued helping everyone who wanted it, from her celebrity Mother friends right down to a Mother she would meet on the street. She took her vast knowledge of branding and her love of social interaction and combined it with her passion, helping others. As she moved forward, she attests that we should all give back to those in need. To Alexsandra, that is the seed of true success “Move Forward, give back.”

Surface Blossom

“I am the proactive catalyst to change our existence and this defines me.”

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Why are there so many women who are afraid to use their voice? Alexsandra puts it simply, “Not to victimize women, but women take a beating at every turn. The woman who works two to three jobs to keep her single parent family afloat hardly has time to spend quality time with her child.” The woman on assistance has put her children in a home where they will have to struggle for the necessities. These two situations can feel like there is nowhere to turn. Alexsandra has been there and she knows how to help.
Many women are programmed to shun confrontation and controversy. They will go out of their way to avoid it. Alexsandra attests. Even if that means not fighting for their deserved child support. It’s hard for these women to bond together because

“When you put two or three broken people together who lack faith in humanity they cannot be bonded together. It’s so hard to find value in what our life has become and stay sane.”

Rise from the Roots

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Alexsandra wants to make Mothers into Spiritual Gangsters. What does that mean? For every scary, controversial thing that happens to a Mother, whether it be a divorce, a job loss, the hardships of raising children, unexpected life turns, instead of hiding, denying or collapsing into yourself, Alexsandra challenges each of you to “show up and have the gut strength to walk into the fire. You will get bumps and bruises but like a phoenix you will rise from the ashes. That is a Spiritual Gangster.”
Alexsandra is a driving force to be a beacon for the Mother who never fit in, for the Mother who does not know how to stand on her own two feet after a divorce, for the little child who deserves MORE. She will walk each painful step with you and help you join a community that cares. Motivating Other Mothers  is your light when there is darkness. Narrate your new survival story with Alexsandra, plant yourself in muddy waters and blossom.

Alexsandra is an executive, a motivator, a beacon for thousands of women already, but at the end of it all, when the day has ended, she is, most of all, a woman that consciously and wholeheartedly loves her son, and her selfless and dedicated work is testimony of that love. Join her on this game changing journey and begin the path of MOTIVATION.

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Warrior #Mom Bentley Hale ~ November Spotlight

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Taking time to celebrate and give gratitude for all the victories in life, I am always aware that we do not gain victories alone. The best journeys and results come when teamwork is involved. Whether it is friends, family, co-workers, or even strangers… we are always stronger working in harmony with others.

So many wonderful people support my efforts to help other mothers and families, that each month, #Moms Motivating Other Mothers, will highlight one spectacular MOM who is making a difference and one family owned business or charity making significant effort with in our communities.

Our MOM for November is Bentley Hale. Through my work with Safe Passage, a spectacular non-profit in California helping mothers and children out of dangerous domestic violence situations, I met Ms. Hale.

Ms. Hale, of Elevate Women Events, was single handedly heading up the enormous task of filling the CBS Backlot with a fun filled event to benefit Safe Passage and the Grossman Burn Foundation. One woman … with a softly curving belly was running the show! I immediately recognized her spirit and was amazed by her level of compassion and understanding. I was proud to meet this young, beautiful bombshell with a heart the size of the Empire State building and vision not only far beyond her years, but also far beyond living for herself. Ms. Hale possesses so many good qualities that it is a challenge to nail down just a few. It is an honor to know her.

“Elevate! Events are planned to help raise funds and awareness for various women’s charities while creating a fun and exciting atmosphere for people to come together to help support a cause. The charities we support advocate for the human rights of women and girls, and seek to empower women both globally and nationally. Proceeds from our events benefit various women’s charities we partner with.” Bentley Hale ~ Elevate! Women

Ms. Hale is expecting her first child, a daughter, in January and is recently married. Marriage gave her a blended family and she flowed gracefully into being a stand out mom.

Ms. Hale has helped so many other women and charities realize milestones that is was a cinch to say yes when she asked me to be a guest at her next event. Elevate! Women and Elevate Retreats are proud to offer its first Pregnancy and Mommy Retreat in Big Bear, California, November 14-16, 2014. Saturday night, November 15, 2014 I will be hosting the “Campfire Life Coach” event. I built a special program for this fun fireside chat. I will focus on how to push through your challenges and manifest your dreams … with a little one in tow. No matter what the press says, I never stopped dreaming, manifesting, or working. It is what has enabled my business to flourish and it has enabled me to give back to you!

Campfire Renew, Inspire & Elevate Workshop For #Moms

Indentifying challenges, fears, hopes, and dreams.

Clearing the path to our core.

Acknowledging our challenges or goals.

Confirming our intention through positive affirmations and specialized exercises.

Creating tools to manifest positive outcomes and schedule of milestones.

I am truly an honored guest, and consider myself in the company of greatness. Cheers to you Bentley Hale as Warrior MOM of the month! You change lives everyday and we salute you!

* Register NOW for the retreat through ELEVATERETREATS.NET or MOTIVATINGOTHERMOTHERS.COM

You Already Have It All

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Motivation. It’s the perfect place to begin to manifest all your dreams. Before you begin your next perfect moment, I want you to understand that you already have it all! Right now … In this moment.

Sometimes it seems as though we “lose” something everyday. I lose my car keys and my iPhone a thousand times a day. Nixon looks at me, swoops a dramatic palm to his forehead and says, “Mommmyyyyyyyyyyy, where is your phone?” I feel frantic for a moment, mostly because I’m running late, and tearing through everything surrounding me. Cursing and blaming everyone and every thing I can think of. ANYONE! To jump to the end of the daily ridiculous shenanigans, I remember this small moment is a metaphor for living. The keys are in my bag, every time. Well, unless I’ve left them in the car. Hey, judge not friend, I remembered the kid and the dog.

My frazzled and accelerated life helps me to remember not to panic. An oxymoron I know. Here’s the thing. I have keys to my home. I have keys to my car. I have my son. We both have our sense of humor and our health. I have an incredible family and an electric existence. We have each other. I haven’t lost a thing. I already have it all.

When I decided to open my life to you, it was after 4 years of silence and judgment on a global scale. If you have ever chatted with me, you know that I always say, “Meh, I’m too stupid to be afraid, thats why I can always rise from any situation.” That’s only partly true. It’s true … I rise. It’s false that I’m not afraid. I feel fear all the time. If I didn’t feel my fear, I wouldn’t know how to be fearless. I choose to move without fear. Fear hinders the greatness that is already within me and within you. I will never stand down to fear. I will always choose hope.

I pushed through the ridicule, the pain, the betrayal, the loss of friends, family, and my comfortable identity. I challenged myself to tell my truth and to open my heart to the love that already existed but I was not choosing to recognize. I chose resilience. I chose love. I chose to be with you! I discovered what I had “lost” never really “was”, and I was inspired to acknowledge the abundance that exists in my life. I already have it all.

Friend, while we critique ourselves every day and find fault with everything about ourselves, we must realize that we are right where we are supposed to be and everything we need to fulfill our destiny is already within us. Pushing through the fear, I choose love over bitterness and despair. Being harsh or hyper-critical on oneself, creates inner anguish. We then communicate from a painful place. No need to do that to yourself. Change the paradigm and your inner dialogue to one of love.

To write about myself publicly or to connect with people around the world was terrifying. Yet, there you were. You greeted me with open hearts, open minds, and boundless love. You exist. You carry me through each day. I had to let go and open my heart, face my fear and stop believing there was something wrong with me. There is nothing wrong with me, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. I challenge you to look at yourself honestly and lovingly. See yourself the way I see you. See the perfect human YOU. The YOU that the universe sees. Love your self the way the universe loves you. Compassionately and infinitely. Constantly renewed. Constantly forgiving.

We want MORE. We want BETTER. We want THINGS. We want MONEY. We want LOVE. We want to be accepted, simply for the loving being we are. We already have what we need for a perfect life. Once you understand and embrace that, you will see the complete and perfect you I see. You will manifest infinitely as, you are living in the present with purity of intention and honesty. You will know to give more than you take. You’ll be surprised to all the ways love shows up. You’ll be surprised how quickly that love turns to opportunity for change. You’ll be surprised how quickly your shift in perspective allows you to access an infinite pool of resources to live your authentic, fulfilled life, and assist your dream quest. If self-improvement means there is something wrong with you, then take a deep breath and let the essence of your perfect being love your insecure self. You already have it all.

I’ve met so many wonderful people around the world that encourage me every day. People that understand loving me, means my child’s life is better, and they can then send me as a warrior for them into the world to affect change. One person I met was a bit nervous about sharing a picture of his or herself in self-realized fear that I may judge it to be ugly. Never. I receive all of the love you are generous enough to share and I see each person for whom they show up to be. Sending kind words, love, encouragement, and making an effort to support others, makes you nothing short of beautiful!

Open your heart to the love that exists, and see yourself as the complete, beautiful, loved, and perfectly flawed being you are. You cannot think your way through life or think your way through a situation. You must LIVE your way through life. What ever challenges come your way, know that you already have all the resources and support to get through it.

Step into your authentic self. Step into your excellence. Step into the love that is waiting for you. I am proud of you. I support you. I am here when you need me. Thank you for giving me the same. I receive all with open arms and return it with unconditional love. You already have it all!

Empower! Create Opportunity!

Our Vision: "Enriching communities by making small business dreams a reality." Our Mission: "To create and sustain jobs and businesses in our communities by providing high-quality economic development services."

Our Vision: “Enriching communities by making small business dreams a reality.”
Our Mission: “To create and sustain jobs and businesses in our communities by providing high-quality economic development services.”

Give the gift of a new job or a new business. VEDC.org is hiring now for many positions. Please check it out and share! We are looking for SENIOR LOAN UNDERWRITERS in the CHICAGO AREA for immediate hire!

Only 64 days left for holiday shopping! Manifest today!

Motivate yourself to start that new business you’ve always wanted or get the job of your dreams!

We are a non-profit and we CARE about YOU! VEDC has the awards and track record to back it up! We are proud to know that we back up what we say to create opportunities AND get you trained. No matter where you are, we are standing by to help!

Community Development Block Grant (CDBG) Award for Excellence in Economic Development – 1995
Economic Development Agency (EDA) Economic Development Award – 1997
California Association for Local Economic Development (CALED) Award of Excellence for Economic Development Programs– 1997
Bank of America Community Catalyst Award – 1998
California Association for Local Economic Development (CALED) Award of Merit for Economic Development Programs– 2000 and 2002
U.S. Small Business Administration (SBA) Minority Champion Award – 1998
U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUD) Best Practices Award – 1999
San Fernando Valley Business Journal Economic Engine Award – 2002
Valley Industry and Commerce Association (VICA) Achievement Award for Non-Profit Organization – 2002
U.S. Small Business Administration (SBA) Technical Assistance Advocate – 2002
San Fernando Valley Business Journal Publisher’s Award – 2004
SFV Business Journal Award: Best Executive Director and Board of Directors – 2004
In recognition of your numerous accomplishments and contributions to the community, given by United States Senator Dianne Feinstein – 2004
In recognition of your exceptional commitment and services in the Greater San Fernando Valley and The City of Los Angeles, given by City of Los Angeles Councilman Dennis Zine and Controller Laura Chick – 2004
Child Care Resource Center’s H.E.A.R.T. Award – 2005
In recognition of dedicated service to the affairs of the community and for the civic pride demonstrated by numerous contributions for the benefit of all citizens of Los Angeles County, given by County of Los Angeles Supervisors Zev Yaroslavsky and Michael Antonovich – 2005
In recognition of our valuable work on behalf of children and families in our community, given by State of California Senator Jack Scott – 2005

Even more importantly we have helped to create more than 25,000 jobs! Visit VEDC.org and search for your career opportunity now! Find our job board in career opportunities at our website or on Facebook at Facebook.com/vedcjobs.

I know exactly the challenges many of us face day to day. Through your love and support I am blazing new trails and able to give back more than ever! My call to action is to begin by sharing information on how to manifest your own business or begin a new career today! I am so many blessed to have so many people help me begin to rebuild and I am eternally grateful to many including VEDC for giving me hope and purpose. I want the same for you! To move forward … Keep giving back!

The Present Is Our Gift

Lao Tzu

Friends, I’m so glad you decided to share this sentiment and this moment with me.  I am ever so appreciative of all the support Nixon and I receive from around the globe and I never want to miss a positive note or let someone go un-thanked.  I begin from a place of gratitude and love.  Thank you!

That said, it isn’t always easy to stay in the present.  My head gets clouded with thoughts of “what’s next…” and “I should’ve…”.  Each day as we work toward a more conscious self, we become more aware of the roads we have traveled, where we are, and of course, where we are going.   I shake it off and remember that it is only this moment that counts, and my choice to love, and to give, are ever present, as the current moment is always … well … current.

Living in that realization, I know I can create a string of perfect moments, that together, in essence create a powerful and meaningful existence.  An existence without fear or regret, an existence that constantly moves forward and actively participates in helping the greater good of me, my family and “us” as a collective.  This is when I am at my best.  It is when you are at your best as well.  Don’t let darkness cloud the light that you already are.  Focus on the positive messages consistently showing themselves to you.  The energy of goodness is always around, the challenge is to constantly choose goodness.

Each day, as I give more of myself by living in my truth and supporting others (remember reciprocity is important), I am moved by the generosity and loving spirits that support me and give me the encouragement to let my voice be heard.  From the effervescent Barry Jordan, Jr., who has penned fantastic children’s books “Grandma Can I Get A Dog” and “Mom! What’s That,” to my folks “across the pond” in the UK that stand strong with Nixon and I in the media. As I remain open, the more love envelops me. I mustn’t forget my Canadian family, I am so proud to have dual citizenship.  Canadians are open and loyal.   I find respite there and in the hearts of the people who live in my sister country.

It is that love and support that enables me to continue to reach out and help others.  My challenges are far from over, and Nixon’s are just beginning.  I repeat to myself over and over “To move forward, keep giving back”.  I have bad days, I have sad days, there are days I just want to cry and ponder the past or wonder about the future.  I know to be kind to myself, honoring my journey … honoring my spirit.  I am doing the best I can and I am proud to be who I am.  My son lives in a strange and alternate universe and my heart aches for him to have a normal existence, however, we all live a strange existence and we are all trying to find our place.  We are all striving to find a place of comfort and acceptance within our day to day lives, which leads us to rue the past or ponder the future.  No one person is any better nor different, than any other person. Some journeys are simply just more visible. Shedding fear and embracing courage, we can all affect change and make things better for those around us and ourselves at the same time.  Accountability, compassion, and an open heart are the only components that are able to differentiate the outcomes

That is exactly why the present is a gift.  It is given and renewed over and over.  The present is the continuum that is everlasting and it is the only true space where we can love, create, sing, dance, manifest and meditate.  It is the present that makes us ever powerful, it is the present that is already full of the electric energy lighting the path for us to see our way forward in the exact way we are meant to. The gift of “the present” cannot be re-gifted, nor recreated.  It is something we must embrace now.

I am so proud of you and know you are loved.  You are not called to be perfect, you are only called to “BE”.  You are more than enough, you are powerful and strong, you are beautiful, and you are unique.  There is no comparison, there is no grass that is greener.  Whether you are looking back or looking forward, stop to unwrap the gift that is eternally given to you … the present.

No Need To Look Back, You Are Perfect Where You Are

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It’s so tempting.  To look back I mean.  Celebrating our various victories, and replaying different parts of our lives and weighing out different outcomes.  Even licking our wounds.  I can tell you, taking inventory is important.  Paying attention to the peaks and valleys is an even more important task.  In your most inner heart, you will know which turn took you to which destination.

There are no right or wrongs.  There are no bad decisions.  This is about YOU and what your perspective is.  I can assure you that you are perfect where you are.  I know, perhaps it feels uncomfortable.  Perhaps you feel lost, perhaps your hope is running low.  THIS is the time magic happens.  Your magic.  This is the exact moment you can change your point of view, change your perspective and see all that there is to be grateful for and how much love you have to give.  I know it saves me every time.

Along my journey, I felt I had lost so much.  Friends, family, work, privacy and eventually myself.  My mom passed away shortly after Nixon was born and I didn’t have time to breathe, much less mourn the loss of my heroine…my mum.  Everything was whizzing by so quickly and those that I thought would stand with me did not, and those that I never expected to be there were. I knew exactly who was whom and what was what.  I kept replaying everything in my head…what did I do wrong, what could I have done differently, what do people think of me, what if I lose my career, and the list goes on and on.  On the other side of the swinging pendulum, my heart was at peace.  For I was moving on automatic, spiritually, emotionally and physically.  I realized I had no choice to believe and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

One particular night, when Nixon was six months old,  he had his first “high” fever.  I believe it was about 101 degrees, just low enough to NOT take him to the hospital, but just high enough to scare the shit out of me.  I gave my infant the ice bath, and the stupid infant medicine.  I got the humidifier and the ice.  I held him and sang softly.  I paced lovingly back and forth rocking him and telling him everything was going to be all-right. My mother had just passed, so there was no motherly advice I could get to soothe my aching heart and I’d been flanked by press so I was behind a gated compound in Encino.  Alone.  When Nixon finally fell asleep, I closed his bedroom door, and crumpled to the floor in inconsolable tears.  I had found a love that was greater than my heart could hold.  One that affected me more than anything in the world could ever or would ever could.  It was pure love.  I didn’t move nor sleep ’til day break and by then his fever was down.  I felt as though I had survived some unspeakable war…and won.

In that devastating moment of feeling the weight of so much loss, so much betrayal, so much isolation and so much fear, I KNEW that I was exactly where I was supposed to be.  I knew all that I’d considered as losses, were truly blessing cloaked in the disguise of MY OWN fears.  I was standing in my own way, by looking back and wondering WHY.  Looking back at people I had loved and lost but alas, they were not relationships of reciprocity.  The Universe… God, had stripped everything from me, and that was just the beginning.  I would lose just about everything else in my life before the rebuild would begin.  Reciprocity became a very important ingredient of success, love and life.  Choose wisely.  Only look back through your rearview mirror…for safety reasons. Not for any other reasons.

Somehow, I knew that I had to stand firmly planted in the moment, and just make it day by day.  Each day growing stronger, each day wiping the tears to clear the way for a smile.  Each day seeing Nixon growing and thriving … the obvious choice for me was gratitude.  No matter how hard each moment was, I knew I was exactly where I should be, receiving the lessons and the wisdom that would carry me through the next day.

Today, let me be the first person to tell you how loved you are.  Let me be the first person to bring you comfort.  You are perfect right where you are.  Tomorrow is yet to come, but it will be more excellent than today.  Be present.  Be in the moment.  Be the personification of love.  Give more.  Love more.  Help more.  Take inventory and be grateful for the journey you’ve walked and those who have walked with you.  You are who you are BECAUSE of…not IN SPITE of.  That my friend is to be celebrated not rued.  I believe in you.  I am so happy to share this sliver of my life, with you, new friends and old, because you count as do I. YOU make a difference just by choosing hope and love.

After years of trying to fit the mold, I’ve accepted that my band plays a different tune … and dancing to my own tune makes me happy.  Find your heart song and celebrate!

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